The Lady with an Identity


Story from My Navy Days

Memoir By Vikram Karve

This happened in the 1970’s – around 43 years ago – when I reported to a frontline warship – a Frigate – my first ship – as a young Sub-Lieutenant.

I reported to the warship in Mumbai – and – in the evening – there was a party in the ship’s wardroom.

(Wardroom is a Navy Officers Mess)

Ladies had also been invited to the party – so – all the “lady wives” of the married officers were present for the party.

Navy Social Etiquette requires that a “Gentleman (Officer) is always introduced to a Lady…”

So – the PMC took me to the ladies – and – he introduced me to the ladies.

In response – the ladies started introducing themselves to me.

“Hello – I am Mrs. “AAA” – the Captain’s wife…”

“Hello – I am Mrs. “BBB” – the Commander’s wife…”

“Hello – I am Mrs. “CCC” – the Engineer-Officer’s wife…”

And – all the ladies introduced themselves accordingly – stating their husband’s name and rank/appointment.

Suddenly – one young lady introduced herself differently:

“Hi – I am Dr. “XXX” – I am a Lecturer at “YYY” College – I teach English Literature…”

I was impressed.

She did not mention her husband’s rank or appointment –  she just stated who she was.

Here was a lady who had an identity of her own – she did not need the “crutches” of her husband’s military rank/appointment.


This story happened around 43 years ago in the 1970’s.

Those days “military wives” derived their identity from their husband’s military rank. 

So – it was unique to see a “military wife” asserting her own identity.

Nowadays – with the proliferation of “career wives” in the defence services – most “military wives” have their own independent identity – and many wives prefer to retain their maiden names rather than suffix their husband’s surname. 


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  2. All Stories in this Blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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This story was written by me in April 2017 and Posted Online earlier by me Vikram Karve in  my Blog under the title INTRODUCTIONS TO LADIES at url:

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