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How’s the Josh – The “Sawyer Effect”

February 10, 2019

Is you Boss or Organisation using the “Sawyer Effect” to “motivate” you into believing that work is “fun”…?

Daniel H. Pink, in his insightful book, “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us”, describes the “Sawyer Effect”.

Pink defines the Sawyer Effect as “practices that can either turn play into work or turn work into play” – derived from an episode from Mark Twain’s book “The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” in which Tom Sawyer tricks his friends into painting a fence for him by convincing them painting a fence was a fun activity.

Many smart bosses use this “Sawyer Effect” to trick their subordinates by “convincing” them a laborious task is indeed fun.

HOW’S THE JOSH…? 

The Military makes use of this “Tom Sawyer Trap” concept very effectively.

By using “pep talks” and jingoistic terms like josh” and camaraderie – Military Training Academies use the “Sawyer Effect” to “motivate” Cadets into believing that tough physical tasks like combat training, parade drill, boxing and cross-country running are actually “fun”.

Various jingoistic motivating stratagems like “Regimental Spirit”“Esprit De Corps” etc are used to whip up intrinsic motivation and morale.

Of course – this is fully justified in wartime when it is required to raise soldiers’ fervour to a fighting pitch.

Business and Corporate Organizations also justify the use of “Sawyer Effect” in order to extract “value for money” from their high-salaried employees.

But – as far as you are concerned – you must be careful that someone does not trap you into obligation by cleverly using the “Tom Sawyer Trap” against you – especially by playing with your emotions.

You can be trapped into obligation due to your financial, moral and emotional vulnerabilities.

I have seen many persons get trapped into obligations since they allowed their emotional vulnerability to be exploited by the “Tom Sawyer Effect”.

I was trapped many times into taking up assignments which appeared to be “enjoyable” – but actually turned out to be quite painful.

The above piece is an extract from my article  HOW TO ENJOY YOUR WORK

Click the url link below to read the full article: 

https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/11/13/how-to-enjoy-your-work/

VIKRAM KARVE 

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Twice “Bitten” – A Passionate Love Story

February 10, 2019

During my early days of creative writing – I wrote rather amateurish fiction stories.

Dear Reader – let me delve deep into my creative writing archives and pull out a rather ribald and pasionate “romance” story for you to enjoy – and to have a hearty laugh.

It is just a fictional yarn – humorous satire – a spoof – no offence meant to anybody – so please take it with a pinch of salt.

Let me add a note of caution – Dear Reader – before you read this story – first check whether you have a “sense of humor” – and only after you confirm that you indeed have a sense of humor – should you then continue reading ahead.

Also – this story is for mature adults only – so if you are a kid – or an overly gender sensitive type – please skip this post.

This story is a work of fiction. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

So – Dear Reader – if you have a “sense of humor” and if you are a mature adult – and if you are game for some humor – some satire – a spoof – read on and have a laugh…

SUCKER PUNCH 

TWICE BITTEN NEVER SHY

Short Fiction – A Love Story – Passionate Romance By Vikram Karve 

Dear Reader:

Here is a story from my book featuring my collection of short stories  COCKTAIL

Please read this story with a pinch of salt.

I think it is one of my bizarre stories – an example of my inchoate and amateurish attempts at writing in my early days.

I wrote this yarn – a rather tall story – around 25 years ago – sometime in the 1990’s – after a visit to Goa.

I visited Goa quite often – first in the 1970s – and then a few times later.

Unlike today – when Naval Officers travel by Air – the moment they get commissioned – those days – we travelled by train – and – only Senior Officers were permitted to fly by air.

The Railway Journey to Goa was interesting.

First – you travelled from Mumbai to Pune by Broad Gauge.

Then – you switched over to Metre Gauge on the Pune Bangalore Route.

Later – the railway line till Miraj was converted to Broad Gauge – so – you could travel by Broad Gauge from Mumbai to Miraj – and then – switch over to Metre Gauge – and travel onwards to Goa (via Londa) on the Miraj Bangalore Line.

(This is when this story happened) 

I still remember the unforgettable railway journey – when you travelled to Goa by that delightful “metre-gauge” train – winding its way down from Londa – past the cascading Dudhsagar falls – to the rail terminus at Vasco.

(I believe that now – the entire railway track to Goa has been converted to Broad Gauge)

I wonder what genre one can call this story.

Romance…?

Pulp Fiction…?

Chic Lit…?

Or maybe – what they now call “Metro Read”…

Let’s say that it is a story for “Urban Adults”.

Well – I have warned you…

So – My Dear Reader – if you still want to read this bizarre, preposterous story – go ahead and do so at your own peril.

So just relax – transport yourself around 27 years back in time to the 1990s – and enjoy this story.

Have a laugh – and don’t forget the brickbats (and bouquets, if any).

As always – I value your comments and feedback.

Part 1 – ONCE BITTEN

Bangalore 31 December 1992

I looked thoughtfully, with nostalgia and pride, at the words inscribed on the brass plaque I held in my hand:

THE FIRST TIME YOU SLAP ME – IT IS YOUR FAULT 

THE SECOND TIME YOU SLAP ME – IT IS MY FAULT

This engraved plaque was the only item that I had brought with me from my old office in Pune.

I had now made it big time. A top job in a prestigious firm in Bangalore.

I gave the brass plaque to Suhas and told him to hang it on the wall.

For added effect – I loudly recited the words – a Chinese proverb – again and again.

The first impression is a lasting one.

I wanted to project myself as a tough guy – and I had dramatically succeeded.

I had totally intimidated Suhas into submission.

He had never expected that I would order him to drive me from the airport straight to office on a Sunday – get the office opened – and give me a detailed briefing.

Suhas had been one of the aspirants for the chair I was sitting on – now he would be my deputy.

If he was disappointed at not being promoted – he did not show it.

After all – Suhas had worked for 10 years in the same firm – and surely he did not like an outsider like me being thrust upon him as his boss

As I stroked my beard – I looked appraisingly at Suhas.

True to his name – he had a sweet pleasant smile.

But he looked a weakling – one of those suave, slimy, effeminate characters that adorn the corporate world – a soft-spoken, clean-shaven, ingratiating sissy with an almost feminine voice and carefully cultivated mannerisms – as if he had been trained in a finishing school.

Suhas had no masculinity – no manliness about him.

He was one of those sissy chikna types who were bullied and ragged and were sought after to be buggered at school and college.

In my mind’s eye – I smiled to myself at my excellent assessment.

Suhas handed me an invitation card and stammered:

“Sir, an invitation for the New Year Eve party tonight.”

I was genuinely pleased and gave him an appreciative smile.

In my euphoria – I had almost forgotten the date.

Eager-Beaver and sycophant that he was – Suresh had organized a partner for me – Anita – a young ambitious executive anxious to please the boss.

Anita was openly showing her willingness to get involved with me.

It was a pity – because I was not interested in Anita.

She was not my type of woman.

Anita was one of those synthetic beauties – pleasing to look at – but not exciting to embrace.

Dainty, delicate, perfectly poised, petite, precise, prim and proper – her make-up perfect and exact – she looked like an artificial doll – optimally designed, precisely engineered and finished to perfection.

Her actions appeared carefully contrived – there was no spontaneity about her.

That vital spark of sensuality was missing.

I could see that she had titivated for me – but I was not titillated.

I liked voluptuous, sensual, earthy women – the rough-and-ready kind.

As we danced – Anita pressed against me in desperate appeal.

I was not stirred.

She was too “simulated” to stimulate me.

I signalled to Suhas who rescued me – and he took Anita away for a dance.

I picked up a drink and took up a strong tactical position with my back to the wall.

I looked at Anita – “Good from Far –but – Far from Good – as we used to say in college.

I smiled to myself.

I sipped my drink.

I lit a cigarette.

And – I looked at the entrance.

I saw her almost at once.

She radiated an extraordinary sensuousness of a degree I had never experienced before.

The impact was so overwhelming that I was instantly aroused and consumed with desire.

She could not have made her body more inviting.

There was nothing delicate about her.

Plump and lusty – she oozed raw sexuality.

I ached with desire – and I drank her in with my eyes, insatiably.

“Enjoying the party, Sir… ” Suhas had followed my transfixed gaze.

Suhas guessed what was on my mind – and he said to me:

“Sir – that “dish” is “Menaka”. She is a hot-shot executive working in our main competitor firm. Let me formally introduce you.”

“No…” I said, “not now.”

Politeness is a pleasant way for a man to get nowhere with a woman.

Suhas got the hint and he left me alone.

My hungry eyes locked on to the woman whose name, Suhas had told me, was Menaka.

I was feasting my eyes on her captivating face – when she suddenly turned and glanced at me.

Our eyes met.

She looked at me for that moment longer than necessary – then – with a curious smile – she turned back to talk to her group.

I kept my eyes on her – looking steadily and directly – trying to transmit and project my thought-waves of passionate yearning.

She adjusted her stance slightly – probably to observe me through the corner of her eye.

Her gestures indicated that I had succeeded in disturbing the equilibrium of her personal inner comfort zone.

I was thrilled with anticipation.

Suddenly she excused herself from her group walked towards a secluded corner.

She turned and looked directly towards me.

She held my gaze in a kind of challenge – there was a lengthy pause – and then – she smiled.

There was a conspiratorial look in her expressive eyes – at once inviting and taunting.

She teased me with her eyes.

My stimulus had evoked a response.

Encouraged by her enthusiastic response – I indulged myself lavishly.

I made love to her with my eyes.

She responded with unrestrained zeal – exhilaration pouring out of her eyes.

As our mutual visual interplay became intense – I could clearly decipher the language in her eyes.

I did not require the power of clairvoyance to look into the province of her mind – to read her thoughts.

I boldly walked up to her and I asked her for a dance.

As I led her onto the dance-floor – I realized that – every man, who was a man, was hungrily ogling at her.

I felt the natural pride of possession that any man feels when he has the company of a woman that other men desire.

We danced continuously, without break.

I held her tightly.

She let her body rub against mine.

Suddenly – the lights went off.

Someone announced:

“One minute left for the New Year…”

It was pitch-dark.

The dance-floor was packed with bodies.

I locked Menaka in a passionate embrace.

Intoxicated by the aroma of her natural scent – I caressed her neck with my tongue.

Her skin was moist with sweat.

She sighed – and her breathing became heavy and rapid.

I kissed her warm mouth – a fervent passionate kiss.

She kissed me back – most eagerly and amorously.

As our tongues intertwined – I could taste the fresh flavour of her mouthwash mixed with her hot saliva.

We were luxuriating in a wave of sensuality which had engulfed us – when the lights were suddenly switched on.

Everyone seemed to have gone berserk – shouting “Happy New Year” at the top of their voices – with hooters, whistles, horns, drums and shouts raising the noise level to a deafening din.

“Happy New Year…” I heard a male voice – it was Suhas.

He was quite drunk.

Anita was standing next to him – her hurt was quite evident in her eyes.

First – I had rejected her.

And now – she had seen Menaka and Me in passionate embrace – lustfully kissing each other…

Before I realized it – Menaka had quickly disengaged and walked away.

I was too confused to react.

Suddenly – Anita pulled me to dance.

She still hadn’t given up hopes.

I kissed her on the cheeks – and wished her a Happy New Year.

Then – I tried to find Menaka – but I could not see her anywhere.

So – I joined in the merrymaking with Anita.

It was only after a considerable amount of time that I noticed – that – Suhas had disappeared.

It took me a week to sink my teeth into my new assignment.

I worked hard.

My first vital challenge was to win a huge software development contract with a multinational company.

It was a prestigious contract.

A large number of firms would be vying for it.

It was imperative that I succeeded in winning it – to establish my credentials and prove my worth.

The primary reason I had been appointed to the top post was owing to my expertise and track record in this area.

My professional reputation was at stake.

By the end of the week – I had my proposal ready.

I kept just one hard copy – no soft copies – because I believe that you should not store anything in a computer that you cannot display on a public notice board.

But – my being busy at work was not the only reason that I had not contacted Menaka.

I had not forgotten the sensuality of her body.

During nights – as I lay awake in bed – I desperately yearned for her – I felt like a volcano without eruption.

I purposely did not make the first move.

I didn’t want Menaka to think I was desperate – I did not want to grovel before her.

I had ardently communicated my unspoken intentions to Menaka on New Year’s Eve – if she wanted me – it was her prerogative to contact me.

One day – while I was working in my plush office – suddenly my phone rang.

It was Menaka.

I felt a tremor of anticipation.

She invited me to lunch at a nearby restaurant.

I accepted.

Menaka was waiting for me outside the restaurant.

She was dressed in a full-sleeved blouse and a heavy formal blue silk sari.

It was hot.

The fabric of her blouse around her armpits was wet with sweat.

She looked and smelt natural – no attempt to camouflage her raw steamy sensuousness behind the synthetic mask of make-up and deodorants.

Raw steamy sensuousness – that’s what I liked about her.

It stimulated me and attracted me towards her.

As we sipped chilled beer – I found that she was easy to talk to.

I had a strange feeling of elation.

In these moods there was so much to say – the words simply came tumbling out.

I told her everything about myself.

In hindsight – I realize that she hardly told me anything about herself.

We met often during the next few days – arranging rendezvous in restaurants and our club.

Menaka tantalized me.

But – she did not let me go all the way.

A bit of petting, necking, fondling, caressing, hugging, kissing, cuddling – it was okay.

But there – she drew the line.

She never invited me home – nor did she talk about her personal things.

At first – I was patient.

No point hurrying up or forcing things.

I did not want to lose her.

There is a time to let things happen – and – there is a time to make things happen.

At first – I thought that “I would let things happen…”

But – the more I met Menaka – the more the desire began building up in me.

The time had come to “make things happen…”

I was wondering what strategy I should adopt – when Suhas interrupted my thoughts.

He said to me:

“Drying a divorcee’s tears is one of the most dangerous pastimes known to man…”

I tried to hide my surprise and regain my composure.

I certainly wasn’t interested in drying Menaka’s tears…!!!

“I didn’t know she is a divorcee…” I said, “In any case – it’s a purely platonic friendship with her.”

“All such platonic relationships have a potential to culminate into affairs…” Suhas pontificated.

I was getting angry now.

Surely – I didn’t need a lecture on how to handle women from this prissy effeminate sissy.

Suhas sensed my feelings – and he pleaded with me:

“Sir – the office grapevine is pulsating with juicy rumours about your romance with Menaka. Such liaisons can be dangerous. She is working for our rival firm which is competing for the same vital contract we are so desperately trying for…”

This was news to me.

Menaka hadn’t mentioned anything about the contract.

I looked innocently at Suhas.

I would have to be careful with this “Nosey Parker” around.

One evening – I was stunned when Menaka suddenly walked into my office.

I had not bargained for this unexpected situation at all.

It was one thing to meet Menaka in some restaurant or the club.

It was quite another thing to have her show up bold as brass at my office – it was embarrassing and downright dangerous.

“Don’t worry – everyone has gone home…” Menaka said – and she came around my desk and stood close to me.

I was sitting on my swivel-chair working on the computer.

I swivelled my chair around.

Her silky smooth stomach was inches from my face.

I sensed the beginnings of the experience which had been eluding me.

I was tremendously excited, yet frightened.

The improbability of the situation made me slightly incredulous and cautious.

But – I could not control myself – and – animal instinct took charge of me.

I clasped her hips and buried my face in her stomach – and we both were going wildly berserk with passionate lovemaking – when suddenly – the door opened – and Suhas walked in.

A few moments later – I sat in Suhas’s office trying to regain my composure.

I realized that Suhas had not spoken a word – and he was totally ignoring me.

Suhas was sitting quietly – ostensibly engrossed in work.

The nuance wasn’t lost on me.

I had left Menaka in my office to tidy up.

I wondered what effect this episode would have on her.

Suddenly – an ominous thought entered my mind – and – I was overcome by a strange foreboding.

I rushed to my office.

Menaka had disappeared.

I yanked open my desk drawer.

I broke into cold sweat.

My premonition had come true – the vital file was missing.

Disgraced – accused of moral turpitude and disloyalty – I resigned my job and left Bangalore forever – under a cloud of shame – a discredited man.

Needless to say – Suhas walked into my job.

Part 2 – TWICE BITTEN

Pune – 31 December 1998 

I wasn’t a person to wallow in despondency for long.

I put the episode behind me and went on a sabbatical.

Interestingly – I found my true métier in the world of academics.

I bounced back into life with vigour and zeal.

I started teaching – and – in a couple of years – I was heading my own computer training institute.

Five years later – I stood on the platform of Pune Railway Station.

I scanned the passenger list on the reservation chart.

No matter how many times I begin a train journey – there is always an intriguing interest in seeing who one’s follow-passengers are.

I was on berth number 27.

Berth number 28 was reserved in the name of a Mrs. M. Kumar, Age 35.

All others in the vicinity were males.

A disappointment.

I always wondered why all the good “chicks” were in other trains – and in other compartments.

Let’s hope this Mrs. Kumar was worth a look, at least.

When Mrs. Kumar entered and sat down opposite me – I was dumbstruck.

It was Menaka.

She gave me a warm smile – and she started talking of me as if she were expecting me.

Her behaviour was natural – as if she had fixed up a rendezvous with me here on the train.

She showed no guilt, no regret, no remorse.

There was absolutely no trace of surprise at seeing me evident on her face.

Menaka had blossomed.

Her beauty had enhanced with age.

“I was looking forward to meeting you…” Menaka said looking directly into my eyes, “It’s good they organized the seminar in Goa. We shall enjoy ourselves. And – of course – we can finish our unfinished business. It’s so exciting…!!!”

I couldn’t believe my ears.

I cannot begin to describe my emotions I felt.

At once – I hated Menaka for the way she had played with me – used me – and then tossed me by the wayside.

But – at the same time – she evoked within me the familiar stirrings of passion.

But – I knew it was dangerous.

So – I decided to steer clear of her – “once bitten, twice shy”.

I avoided talking to Menaka.

I snubbed her when she tried to start a conversation.

I pretended to read a book.

We travelled in silence on the broad-gauge train from Pune to Miraj – where we would change over to the connecting “metre-gauge” express to Goa.

Hopefully – Menaka would get seat away from me.

In the evening – just before Miraj – the train conductor arrived and he said:

“There is no air-conditioned service on the metre-gauge overnight train from Miraj to Vasco Da Gama. You will have to travel “First Class”…”

“Both of us are together. Give us a coupe…” Menaka said to the train conductor.

The moment I heard her words – I was dumbstruck – tongue-tied.

“Yes, Madam – I will allot you Coach F-1, coupe compartment D…” the train conductor said to her – then he gave me a canny look and said in Railway Lingo: “This train reaches Miraj at 2000 hrs. The connecting metre-gauge train leaves at 2030.”

Menaka sat down close to me on the berth of the coupe of the metre-gauge train.

The compartment’s smallness forced us into such an arousing intimacy that I could not control myself when she made her move.

She made love to me with a professional’s skill and an amateur’s enthusiasm.

Making love in a speeding metre-gauge train was an awesome experience.

As the train rocked and sped through the night – we went crazy with passion – and she did not let me rest – but brought me back to her each time I tried to slide away from her, exhausted.

In the next two weeks – I realized the wildest of my fantasies with her.

We made love to each other in all possible ways, at all possible places.

Two weeks passed in a jiffy – and – as I lay next to Menaka on the wet sand in a secluded corner of the beach – satiated by the lovemaking and intoxicated with “Feni” – I felt exhausted, drained and gratified.

“Enough is Enough…” I said to myself – and I decided to leave quietly next morning.

Part 3 – SUCKER PUNCH

Six months later I had a surprise visitor.

It was Anita.

She had a parcel for me.

I opened it.

There was a “Thank-You Card” from Menaka.

There was also the brass plaque with the Chinese proverb which I had forgotten in my Bangalore office.

I looked at the familiar words on the brass plaque:

“The first time you slap me – it is your fault.

The second time you slap me – it is my fault.”

I was baffled, nonplussed.

Why had Menaka sent me this brass plaque…?

Was there a hidden message in this…?

I looked at the “Thank-You” Card 

I read the words inscribed on the card:

“From Menaka Kumar”

The “Kumar” was intriguing – those days she called herself “Menaka” – that’s all.

I asked Anita:

“Tell me Anita – who is this “Kumar” fellow that Menaka remarried. Or – is it her first husband’s surname. Or – was it her maiden name…?”

Anita burst out laughing:

“She married Suhas. His full name is Suhas “Kumar”. Suhas – your ex-deputy. Have you forgotten him…?”

I felt angry, betrayed.

“Suhas”…!!!

Just imagine…!!!

Menaka had married that effete womanish softy.

He was hardly man enough for her.

What a mismatch…?

She needed a real man – a strong, virile, potent man like me.

Seeing the look on my face – Anita spoke quickly:

“Suhas and Menaka got married soon after you left. Now – they have set up their own firm. I work for them.”

She abruptly stopped speaking.

I could sense her hesitation.

But – I wanted to know why Menaka had sent Anita to me.

It was an intriguing mystery.

I looked at Anita – and I said to her:

“Go on – tell me everything…”

Anita gave me a curious look and said:

“Menaka is pregnant for the first time. She was trying desperately all these years. And finally – it happened after so long. I am so happy for her. The baby is due in another three months time.”

Comprehension dawned on me pretty fast.

It was 6 months ago that Menaka and I had spent those passionate two weeks in Goa.

And – her baby was due in 3 months time.

6 + 3 = 9

Anita need not have spelt it out to me.

I did not know whether to laugh or to cry.

Menaka had used me again – for the second time – to realize her “goal” – and then – she had cast me aside.

She had “slapped” me again…!!!

But – was it a “slap”…?

Had Menaka “slapped” me for the second time…?

Had she delivered a “sucker punch”…?

I don’t know.

I truly don’t know.

And – I don’t care.

I picked up the brass plaque – and – looked at it nostalgically for the last time.

I read the words engraved on the plaque:

“The first time you slap me – it is your fault. 

The second time you slap me  it is my fault.”

Then – I tossed the plaque out of the window.

No more proverbs for me.

So – I said genuinely to Anita:

“Convey my congratulations and best wishes to Menaka. Tell her that I am eagerly waiting for the next rendezvous with her. Whenever she wants me – wherever she wants me – any time – any place – I will always be there at her service.”

EPILOGUE 

10 years have passed since – ten long years.

Often – I think of Menaka – I yearn for her – and – I wonder when I am going to have my next rendezvous with her.

I am eagerly waiting for her to “slap” me again.

Yes – I wait in anticipation for Menaka to deliver the next “sucker punch”

VIKRAM KARVE

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  2. All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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This is an abridged revised version of my story ONCE BITTEN TWICE SHY written by me (Vikram Karve) around than 25 years ago in the year 1995. The story also features in my anthology of short stories abour relationships COCKTAIL

This story has been posted online by me a number of times on my various creative writing blogs including at urls: http://creative.sulekha.com/sucker-punch_62393_blog  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/06/once-bitten-twice-shy-short-fiction.html  and  https://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/04/blog-fiction-story-no-34-once-bitten.html and https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/08/16/twice-bitten-never-shy-a-passionate-romance-story/and https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/03/13/a-ribald-romance-story-twice-bitten-never-shy/ and  https://karve.wordpress.com/2018/06/15/twice-bitten-and-a-sucker-punch/ etc

Art of Training

February 10, 2019

ART OF TRAINING – Philosophy, Strategy, Design and Implementation 

HOW TO IMPART TRAINING 
Musings of a Veteran Trainer 
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Training Strategy is the sine qua non for the efficacy of a Training Programme.

In fact – Training Strategy is the basis for Training Design and Implementation. 

That is why – the first thing I used to do before designing a training programme – was to reflect, explore, consider, analyse and decide as to which Training Philosophy is relevant to the context in the particular Training Need and Environment. 


TRAINING PHILOSOPHY 

There are 3 basic Training Philosophies:

1. Confucian Training Philosophy

2. Zen Training Philosophy

3. On-the-job Training Philosophy

You must formulate your Training Strategy as per your Training Philosophy. 


Thus – Training Philosophy is the foundation  the core  of the Art of Training.

CONFUCIAN TRAINING PHILOSOPHY 

The Objective of Confucian Training Philosophy is:

The Aim of Training is to Qualify the Trainee for a more Important Job.

In other words – Training is inextricably linked with Career Advancement.

Most Military Training Courses are based on the Confucian Training Philosophy.

Since Confucian Type Training is primarily for promotion – if the training is not followed by promotion or career advancement quickly enough – non-realization of expectations may create frustration and resentment in the trainee. 


ZEN TRAINING PHILOSOPHY 

The Objective of Zen Training Philosophy is:

The purpose of training is continuous improvement in performance.

The emphasis here is on “continuous improvement”. 

The Aim of Training is to improve the Present Performance of the Trainee – by focusing on excellence in work and self-development. 

Zen Type training aims at strengthening the inner urge and enhancing requisite skills for work-excellence and job-satisfaction – without the trainee expecting any tangible material reward or career advancement due to the training.


ON THE JOB TRAINING

And – of course – if you want to avoid a formal training programme altogether – there is always my favourite good old time-tested “On-The-Job Training” philosophy which is breathtaking in its simplicity:


“Entrust a man with responsibility – and then tell him to get on with the job…!”


It is called “On the Job Training” and it always works – you can take my word for it…!!! 

The Navy believes in “On the Job Training” – and – during my Navy Days – I saw the efficacy of “On the Job Training” – especially on Ships. 

In my next blog post – I will tell you a hilarious story on On-The-Job Training.

TRAINING versus EDUCATION

Hey – Dear Reader – can you this please tell us the difference between Training and Education.

Is there a difference between 
Training” and “Education…? 

The difference between Training and Education is explained below. 

In my opinion – the difference between Training and Education is as follows:


1. The Aim of Training is to develop the required Skills in the Trainee

2. The Aim of Education is to enhance the Knowledge of the Student

In a nutshell:

Training pertains to “skill” development 

Education pertains to “knowledge” enhancement 

If so – what are various “Education Philosophies” akin to “Training Philosophies”…?

Hey – you Academics and Thinkers and Educationists out there.


Please throw some more light on this subject – so that we don’t confuse Training with Education – and vice versa.  


FOOD FOR THOUGHT

In a developing country like India – we need a skilled workforce.

Sadly – in India – we focus too much on Education. 

We have too many highly qualified individuals who are unemployable because they do not have the requisite skills.

Even Engineering and Technology Courses focus more on bookish knowledge than practical skill development.

Owing to this – most industrial organisations have to conduct induction training to develop the requisite skills  and make these degree engineers ready for work on the shopfloor – to put is metaphorically – and even I have had the opportunity to conduct Induction Training for newly recruited engineers and scientists.

Indian needs SKILL DEVELOPMENT – and – to achieve this – we have to focus more on TRAINING – rather than Degree Oriented Bookish EDUCATION.

We keep opening IITs (Indian Institutes of Technology)

But – in actual fact: 

We need more ITIs (Industrial Training Institutes).

In any case – most IIT students migrate abroad, mainly to USA, for lucrative careers and to realize their American Dream

S India does not gain much from IITs.

On the other hand – ITI trainees work in Indian Industries.

We need more ITIs – maybe an ITI in each district.

So – we should proliferating IITs – and start opening ITIs instead.

Yes – in order to achieve skill development  India needs more ITIs than IITs. 

VIKRAM KARVE

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This is a revised and updated version of my article first written by me Vikram Karve more than 25 years ago in the year 1995 and posted online earlier by me a number of times including at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2011/08/training-strategy.html  and  http://education.sulekha.com/art-of-training_94865_blog  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2009/07/art-of-training.html  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/07/types-of-training.html  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/01/how-to-design-training-program-first.html  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2012/12/how-to-train-people-musings-on-training.html and  http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2019/02/how-to-impart-training.htmland http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2015/08/training-and-education.html etc

How to Get a House in Deccan Gymkhana

February 10, 2019

DO YOU WANT A HOUSE IN DECCAN GYMKHANA, PUNE…? 

Everyone wants to live in a “posh” locality.

But – everyone cannot afford it.

If you are an honest Defence Officer – once you retire – you cannot afford to buy a house in Deccan Gymkhana – the most posh, premier and high-brow neighbourhood of Pune.

That is why most Military Veterans live in the “Military Veteran Ghettos” in the outskirts of Pune – or in other distant suburbs – where most Defence Officers settle down after retirement.

If you are an honest Defence Officer – the only way you can stay in Deccan Gymkhana after retirement – is – if you are lucky enough to have inherited a bungalow (or house) in Deccan Gymkhana – from your forefathers/ancestors.

That is why – whenever I visit the area of Deccan Gymkhana – I walk around – “wistfully” looking at the houses in Deccan Gymkhana – wondering – “only if” – I could have managed to acquire a house in Deccan Gymkhana.

One evening – I walked past a house in Deccan Gymkhana.

The house was locked.

The house was locked because the owner of the house (an old lady) had gone abroad to live with her son – who migrated to the US many years ago – and settled down in America permanently.

As a newly married bride – this old lady had one big ambition – she wanted to live in Deccan Gymkhana.

I recalled how she had nagged her late husband to buy a house in Deccan Gymkhana – in order to achieve her ambition.

I smiled at the irony of the situation.

The woman’s nagging had driven her husband crazy – and – he finally succumbed to her ambitions and he bought a house in Deccan Gymkhana which was beyond his means.

Because of this – he had to slog hard – working overtime – doing many things to earn money – to pay off his housing loans.

And – all this physical overwork and related mental stress probably caused his untimely death.

But – his children migrated abroad.

The woman’s ambition for living in Deccan Gymkhana had driven her husband crazy (and maybe even driven him to his untimely death).

And now – instead of living in Deccan Gymkhana – the woman had locked up the house in Deccan Gymkhana – and she gone abroad to live with her children.

What an irony of fate.

You kill yourself to get something.

And – when you get it – you can’t even enjoy it…!!!

Maybe all this was in the back of my mind when I wrote a story around 6 years ago titled “A HOUSE IN DECCAN GYMKHANA”.

This fiction story is about a status-conscious wife who wants to live in the high-brow posh locality in Pune called Deccan Gymkhana.

So – let me delve into my Creative Writing Archives and pull out this story for you to read.

Do tell me if you like the story…

THE HOUSE IN DECCAN GYMKHANA

Fiction Short Story By Vikram Karve 

Link to my original post in my Blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2017/06/how-to-acquire-house-in-deccan-gymkhana.html

THE HOUSE IN DECCAN GYMKHANA – a story by Vikram Karve

“My wife wants a house in Deccan Gymkhana…” Shekhar said.

“Are you crazy…?” I said.

“Why…?”

“No one sells a house in Deccan Gymkhana. There are no houses for sale in Deccan Gymkhana…” I said.

“There is one house for sale in Deccan Gymkhana…” Shekhar said.

“How do you know…?”

“My wife found out…” Shekhar said.

“And – what is the cost of this house in Deccan Gymkhana…?” I asked him.

He told me the exorbitant price of the house in Deccan Gymkhana.

The sky-high price of the house was much more than what I had expected.

“Tell me Shekhar – from where are you going to get the money to pay for this house in Deccan Gymkhana…?” I asked Shekhar.

“I will take a loan…” he said.

“A loan…? Who is going to give you such a big loan…? And even if they do give you a loan – can you afford it…? The bloody EMI will be more than the salary we earn here…” I said to him.

“I know all that. That’s why I am quitting this job…” Shekhar said.

“Are you mad to quit such a good government job…? Where will you get such a safe, secure, stress-free, comfortable job with so many perks and benefits…?”

“But I remain in this job – I won’t be able to buy the house in Deccan Gymkhana…” Shekhar said.

“Why are you so obsessed about buying a house in Deccan Gymkhana…? What’s wrong with this place…?” I said.

“My wife says that this place is too “middle-class” – she wants to live in a posh locality…” Shekhar said.

“But your wife has lived her full childhood over here – in fact – she has lived her entire life right here in the heart of this very Peth”...” I said to Shekhar.

“Yes. That’s why she is fed up of this place – and she does not want to spend the rest of her life living a lowbrow existence over here. She wants a high-class standard of living…” Shekhar said.

“Oh – your wife suddenly thinks this place is “lowbrow”…? I did not know that your wife has become so snobbish and snooty…” I said.

“Please don’t make sarcastic comments…” Shekhar said, “if you can’t help me – I will manage on my own.”

“Oh – so you think you can buy a house in Deccan Gymkhana on your own…? And how do you intend to do that…?” I asked Shekhar.

Shekhar showed me the job offer letter.

“Are you crazy…? This is a war ravaged country…” I said.

“That’s why they are paying so much. Look at the salary figure…” Shekhar said.

Yes – the salary was indeed substantial – very substantial – and with this kind of money – Shekhar could easily afford the EMI for the house in Deccan Gymkhana.

“Hey, all this is fine – but you are newly married. This is a 3 year contract. And you won’t be able to take your wife over there to that war-torn country. I hope your wife is ready to stay all alone. Is she ready for a long distance marriage so early in your married life…?” I said to Shekhar.

“Of course my wife is ready to make sacrifices. She is the one who found out about this job. In fact she told me that I should even work overtime and encash the one month’s leave and LTA which I am entitled every year and that I should come back straight after 3 years. Then we will have so much money that we will able to live comfortably for the rest of our lives. Here – just look at the pay, the incentives, the allowances, the bonus, the perks…” Shekhar said, pointing to the job offer letter.

Shekhar was right.

The pay packet was indeed very generous – in fact – I had not seen such an attractive compensation package before.

With this kind of money – Shekhar could easily afford the house in Deccan Gymkhana.

And after just 3 years – Shekhar would be able to pay off his loan – and he would still have so much money to spare – that he could just live off the interest.

But then – money earns more money – and I was sure that with so much money – and with an astute wife egging him on – Shekhar would go places and become a very rich and prosperous man.

Maybe Shekhar would start a business and become a tycoon – maybe…

But one thing was sure – this job was going to change his life – not only would he have a house in Deccan Gymkhana – but Shekhar would certainly become a wealthy man.

“Hey, what are you thinking…?” Shekhar said, interrupting my train of thoughts.

“Nothing…” I said.

“So…? What do you say…?” Shekhar asked me.

“Your wife is right. You must take this job…” I said to Shekhar.

“And – should I buy the house in Deccan Gymkhana…?” he asked.

“Of course – that goes without saying…” I said.

And so – my friend Shekhar took up the lucrative foreign assignment and he went abroad to the war ravaged country.

But before he left – Shekhar shifted his wife into their plush newly-purchased house in the posh locality of Deccan Gymkhana.

Shekhar’s wife was overjoyed.

She personally got the interiors done to her liking in a very classy manner.

Every time I met her – she seemed happier and happier.

She truly flourished.

She had realized her dreams of living in a house in Deccan Gymkhana – and the glow of joy showed on her.

Shekhar would call me on the phone from abroad – once in a while.

Shekhar was happy – because his wife was happy.

I knew that Shekhar was living a tough and dangerous life.

From time to time – I saw news reports on TV about incidents of violence in the desolate strife-torn land where Shekhar was working.

I was worried about his safety.

But – whenever we spoke on phone – Shekhar always seemed to be full of cheer.

Maybe – the very thought that he had made his wife so happy – made Shekhar happy too.

One day – my worst fears came true.

Shekhar was killed in crossfire during a skirmish – when rebels attacked the project where he was working.

I thought his wife would be devastated.

But – surprisingly – she coped with this enormous tragedy with remarkable courage and composure.

At least – financially – she was not that badly off.

Shekhar’s company had insured their employees heavily.

So – Shekhar’s wife received a huge amount of insurance money.

With this money – Shekhar’s wife could pay off the remaining home loan for the house in Deccan Gymkhana.

Now – the house in Deccan Gymkhana fully belonged to her.

Even after paying off the home loan – a very substantial amount of money was still left with her.

Shekhar’s wife invested this huge amount of money in a “monthly income scheme” – which would ensure her a decent income for her entire life.

A few months later – I married Shekhar’s widow.

Then – I moved in with her – into her house in Deccan Gymkhana.

Yes – as her husband – I relocated myself into her posh house in Deccan Gymkhana.

I now live with a beautiful woman in a luxurious house in Pune’s most elite high-class “posh” locality of Deccan Gymkhana.

VIKRAM KARVE

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Link to my source blog post in my Blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2017/06/how-to-acquire-house-in-deccan-gymkhana.html

This story was written be me Vikram Karve in January 2013 and first Posted by me Vikram Karve on February 28, 2013, at 2/28/2013 02:10:00 PM in my creative writing blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve at url: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/02/a-house-in-deccan-gymkhana-blog-fiction.html and re-posted online by me many times including at urls: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2014/01/how-to-live-in-deccan-gymkhana-pune.html  and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2015/03/do-you-want-house-in-deccan-gymkhana.html  and https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/09/29/the-house-in-deccan-gymkhana-a-love-story/ and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/07/a-house-in-deccan-gymkhana-story.html

12 Causes of Depression

February 10, 2019
12 Types of Depression 
Academics have identified 12 subtypes of depression: 
1. Infection, in which sickness behaviour to combat pathogens and parasites may lead to symptoms such as loss of appetite, sleep disturbances, anhedonia, impaired concentration. 
2. Long-term stress which is known to activate the immune system, causing an increase in pro-inflammatory cytokine levels that influence mood. 
3. Loneliness
4. Traumatic experience
5. Hierarchy conflict where events such as unemployment, exclusion from a social group, bullying at school or professional hierarchy conflicts may trigger a depressive episode. 
6. Grief
7. Romantic rejection
8. Postpartum events which lead to depression in 10-15 per cent of women. 
9. The season, where Seasonal Affective Disorder affects the individual at the same time each year. 
10. Chemicals such as alcohol and cocaine. 
11. Somatic diseases such as Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, migraine, epilepsy, stroke and traumatic brain injury. 
12. Starvation which is known to reduce mood and, when prolonged, can lead to apathy and social withdrawal. 
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