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Military Musings – Is “Fraternization” prejudicial to good order and discipline?

September 10, 2018

In the context of the Military Armed Forces – any “unduly familiar relationship” between a senior and a junior is deemed to be “Fraternization”… 

IS THERE A NEED FOR A FRATERNIZATION POLICY IN INDIAN ARMED FORCES…? 

Military Musings by Vikram Karve

“Stealing Affections” of Brother Officers’ Wives is deemed to be an “offence” in the Armed Forces (Army, Navy and Air Force).

Yes – stealing the affection of a brother officer’s wife is deemed to be conduct unbecoming of an officer and conduct prejudicial to good order and discipline.

It is considered a grave offence which may even lead to dismissal from service.

However – stealing the affection of a “sister officer” is considered okay.

In fact – “brother officers” are permitted to marry “sister officers” – yes – male officers are allowed to marry female officers.

There are many “in-service couples” in the Armed Forces – and this trend of DIUC (Double Income Uniformed Couples) is increasing in the 3 Defence Services.

Someone said that the Army Navy and Air Force encourage marriages between uniformed officers by providing various sops like spouse postings and dual accommodation seniority carry forward etc.

Wonder why Defence Services encourage such “Marriages in Uniform” by giving incentives…?

Does this not go against the tenets of “fraternization”…?

FRATERNIZATION

What is the meaning of the term “Fraternization” in the context of the Military Armed Forces…?

Any “unduly familiar relationship” between a senior and a junior is deemed to be Fraternization.

Hence – Marriage (which includes intimate sexual relationship) is an “unduly familiar relationship”.

Many other relationships like dating, living together and other intimate friendships can also be deemed to be “unduly familiar relationships”.

Suppose – in the Navy – a male Commander marries a female Lieutenant – or – in the Army – a male Lieutenant Colonel marries a female Captain – is it not a case of “fraternization”…?

Considering the considerable difference in ranks/seniority between husband and wife – is it not an “unduly familiar relationship” between a senior and a junior which can be deemed to be fraternization…?

It appears that – at least in the Indian Armed Forces – a lot of leniency is shown as far as relationships between male and female officers are concerned (despite their difference in rank).

This is evident if you observe the increasing number of marriages between male and female officers in the uniformed services.

Marriages and Relationships between officers is not considered fraternization in the Indian Armed Forces.

But – what will happen if a Female Officer wants to marry a Male Soldier, Sailor or Airman…?

It can happen – anyone can fall in love with anyone.

(At present – in the Indian Armed Forces – there are women only at Officer Level – but later – when women are inducted in all ranks – reverse gender situations can also occur – of women soldiers falling in love with male officers and wanting to marry them)

At present – Indian Armed Forces allow Male and Female Officers to marry each other irrespective of the inter-se seniority.

Will the Indian Armed Forces allow Officers to marry Soldiers, Sailors or Airmen…?

For example – will the Army allow a Lady Officer to marry a Male JCO?

Can Officers Marry, Date, Romance or have Relationships with PBOR (Personnel Below Officer Rank)…?

Will this be treated as Fraternization…?

DO THE INDIAN ARMED FORCES HAVE A FRATERNIZATION POLICY…?

Is there a statutory Fraternization Policy in the Indian Armed Forces…?

I do not know.

“Fraternization” is a uniquely military concept.

Military custom demands that seniors must maintain thoroughly professional relationships with juniors at all times.

“Fraternization” is the term traditionally used to identify personal relationships that contravene the customary bounds of acceptable senior-subordinate relationships.

“Fraternization” means any relationship in the military chain of command that is prejudicial to good order and discipline.

Fraternization Rules date back to the time of the Roman Army.

The purpose of such Fraternization Constraints is to:

  1. Maintain good order and discipline.
  1. Preserve military sanctity and ensure the integrity of the chain of command.
  1. Prevent adverse impact upon a junior’s response to orders, the senior’s exercise of command, or the perception of others regarding the senior’s impartiality (In most cases of fraternization, perceptions matter more than reality).
  1. Promote relationships of mutual respect and confidence between juniors and seniors.

FRATERNIZATION POLICY FOR INDIAN ARMED FORCES

I am sure you have seen Marriages between Serving Officers of the Armed Forces.

But – have you ever come across Marriage between an Officer and a PBOR (Personnel Below Officer Rank)…?

Do tell us if you have come across a marriage between a serving officer and a serving soldier.

Is there a need for a statutory Fraternization Policy to regulate “unduly familiar personal relationships” in the Armed Forces (Army Navy and Air Force)…?

Well – that is for the “powers-that-be” to decide.

With the entry of women in the armed forces in the 1990’s – have the archaic Army Act, Navy Act and Air Force Act been amended to include a Fraternization Policy…?

Yes – with the advent of women into the Army, Navy and Air Force – there has been a lot of pontification about “gender-sensitization” – but has a statutory fraternization policy been formulated and promulgated…?

MILITARY FRATERNIZATION POLICY TO REGULATE  AND UNDULY FAMILIAR RELATIONSHIPS (LOVE DATING ROMANCE AFFAIRS MARRIAGE) IN THE ARMY NAVY AND AIR FORCE 

FOUR CARDINAL FRATERNIZATION TENETS

As I said earlier – it is the prerogative of the “powers-that-be” to decide whether to have a fraternization policy or not (as per the culture prevalent in their respective services).

But – if there is to be a fraternization policy – then – perhaps – it can be formulated based on one of the following cardinal tenets:

  1. Prohibit Marriages between Members of the Armed Forces(Army Navy Air Force)

Whether you are an Officer or a PBOR – you cannot marry anyone in uniform (you cannot have an unduly familiar relationship with any other serving officer, soldier, sailor, airman).

This means that the prevalent practice of “fauji” marriages between male and female officers will be banned.

Yes – “fauji” marriages will be treated as fraternization and will be prohibited – especially if there is a difference in rank/seniority between the two officers.

  1. Prohibit Same-Service Marriages

For example – if you are in the Army you cannot Marry someone in the Army – though you may Marry someone from the Navy or Air Force – and vice versa.

  1. Prohibit Same Branch/Arm/Service/Regiment/Corps Marriages

For example – a male Army Officer from EME cannot marry a female Officer from the EME – but he may marry a female Officer from ASC, AOC etc – a helicopter pilot cannot marry another helicopter pilot – but may marry a fighter pilot or an officer from non-flying branch – and – similar restrictions for officers belonging to the same branch in the Navy.

  1. Prohibit Marriages between Officers and PBOR 

Officers cannot Marry Soldiers/Sailors/Airmen.

NEED TO DEFINE WHAT CONSTITUTE “UNDULY FAMILIAR RELATIONSHIPS”

Of course – in addition to Marriage – the Fraternization Policy must define and govern “unduly familiar relationships” between uniformed personnel  like dating, romance, physical relationships, live-in relationships and intimate friendships – and fraternization principles must apply to regulate such relationships.

For example:

Should an Officer be allowed to indulge in dating or become romantically involved with another Officer of the Armed Forces…?

Should dating between Officers and PBOR (Soldiers/Sailors/Airmen) be permitted…?

Or – should Officers of the Armed Forces be allowed to “Date” only Civilians…?

Maybe – the same Four Cardinal Fraternization Tenets for Marriage (mentioned above) can apply to other relationships as well.

FRATERNIZATION POLICIES IN MILITARY FORCES

Most mixed-gender military forces have laid down fraternization policies in order to prevent inappropriate relationships which can be detrimental to morale and discipline.

There is a perception that “Fraternization” refers relationships between Officers and PBOR (soldiers, sailors, airmen).

This is not so.

Fraternization includes officer-officer relationships as well.

In a case a few years ago in the US Navy – Two Officers – a CO and XO of a Ship – both of the same rank (Lieutenant Commander) – were punished for violation of the US Navy Fraternization Policy:

Navy Fires Top Two Officers For Being “Unduly Familiar” While Commanding Warship

url: http://nation.time.com/2010/12/14/navy-fires-top-two-officers-for-being-unduly-familiar-while-commanding-warship/#ixzz2j6YQk5H0

“Fraternization” means any relationship in the military chain of command that is prejudicial to good order and discipline – and so – Fraternization includes “Unduly Familiar” officer-officer relationships as well.

FRATERNIZATION POLICIES TO REGULATE “UNDULY FAMILIAR RELATIONSHIPS” IN THE MILITARY

The Indian Defence Services (Army Navy and Air Force) are becoming more and more mixed-gender with increasing number of women joining the Armed Forces.

So – it may be desirable to formulate and promulgate a Statutory Fraternization Policy based on one of the four Cardinal Fraternization Principles as considered apt:

  1. Prohibit Marriages and Relationships between members of the Armed Forces (Ban all inter-serviceand intra-servicefraternization)
  1. Prohibit Same-Service Marriages and Relationships (Ban intra-servicefraternization but allow inter-servicefraternization)
  1. Prohibit Same Branch/Regiment/Corps Marriages and Relationships (Ban intra-branch/regiment/arm/service/corps fraternization)
  1. Prohibit Marriages and Relationships between Officers and PBOR (Ban fraternization between officers and soldiers/sailors/airmen)

Dear Reader: Which one of the four options do you prefer…? 

EPILOGUE

The recent SC  “Section 377 Verdict”  decriminalized part of the 158-year-old colonial era provisions of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code (IPC)

Now – Section 377 would not apply to consensual same-sex acts between homosexuals, heterosexuals, lesbians and other sexual minorities.

One wonders whether the Military will treat “consensual sex” between “Same-Sex” Military Personnel as acceptable and lawful…?

If so – will there be a Fraternization Policy for Same-Sex Relationships among Military Personnel…?

Dear Reader: Do comment and tell us your views…

VIKRAM KARVE

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  1. This blog post is a spoof, satire, pure fiction, just for fun and humor, no offence is meant to anyone, so take it with a pinch of salt and have a laugh.
  2. All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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Link to my original post in my Blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/07/love-dating-romance-affairs-marriage-in.html

This is an updated version of my article FRATERNIZATION AND MILITARY LOVE earlier posted by me Vikram Karve online in my Academic and Creative Writing Journal Blog on November 5, 2013 at url:  https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/06/13/fraternization-love-dating-romance-in-uniform/ and  http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/11/fraternization-and-military-love.html

“Stealing” Affections – It Takes Two to Tango

September 10, 2018

Things that are considered trivial in the civilian world become headline news in the military world.

Is a consensual love affair between two ordinary civilians considered newsworthy…?

However – a consensual love affair between two military officers is hyped and sensationalized by the media into a news report with a scandalous headline:

 “Alleged affair between two Army Majors lands them in trouble” 

In the news item above – there is a rather curious quote:

“There is enough persuasive evidence against the Major (male officer) and the Major (female officer) and both are blameworthy of having entered into relationship against the norms and ethos of the Indian Army…”

Reading this reminded me of a blog post I had written many years ago…

Stealing Affections – It Takes Two to Tango

Sometime ago – I came across a rather curious news-report about a “stealing affections” case.

One does not know the truth about the allegations/case – and – the truth will be found out by the inquiry.

In most “stealing affections” cases – men are accused of “stealing affections”

But – in this case – an allegation of “stealing affections” has been made against a woman.

After reading this news-report – I remembered a Story that I had posted on my blog moe than 4 years ago in July 2014.

I had written this story after reading a newspaper report on a “stealing affections” case.

Here is the story once more for you to mull over.

From My Humor in Uniform Archives 

(This Post Was Written more than 4 years ago on July 19, 2014)

Stealing Affections  It Takes Two to Tango

A Fictional Spoof By Vikram Karve 

(NB: This Story Was Written on July 19, 2014)

There was a news-report in the newspapers about a Navy Commodore being sacked as he was found guilty of “stealing the affections of a brother officer’s wife”.

The term “stealing affection” is the military euphemism for “adultery”.

Stealing the affection of a brother officer’s wife is deemed to be conduct unbecoming of an officer and conduct prejudicial to good order and discipline and is considered to be an offence.

Don’t you feel that the expression “stealing affection” is a misnomer…?

The word “steal” implies that you take something belonging to someone else without her knowledge or consent.

Can you “steal” someone’s “affections” without the other person knowing it…?

Is it a case of one-way love…?

Or – is the lady (brother officer’s wife) willingly giving her affections to the officer (her husband’s colleague)…?

If the lady is willingly giving her affections – can the officer be accused of “stealing” affections…?

And – if the officer had forced his affections on the lady – she could have complained of rape or molestation – or outraging the modesty of a woman – for which the punishment is much more severe than mere dismissal.

There is a difference between “sexual harassment” and a “love affair” between two consenting adults.

An officer can “steal” the affections of a brother officer’s wife – only because the brother officer’s wife is “willing” to have her affections “stolen” by him.

In a love affair – the relationship and the sex – both are consensual.

So – isn’t the woman equally responsible for the adulterous love affair…?

IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO

It takes two to tango.

Yes – it takes two willing people to commit infidelity – not just one.

Both the man and the woman are equally guilty of indulging in the immoral act of adultery.

But – in most cases – the man is punished severely – even sacked from his job – whereas the equally guilty woman goes scot-free.

Is this fair…?

From an ethical point of view – is it ethical to blame only the man for the adulterous love affair in which the woman has willingly participated…?

Is it not a case of “reverse gender bias”…?

“Extra-Marital Affairs” and “Stealing Affections” are not new to the Navy.

Surely – you have heard of the famous Commander Nanavati Case – which – some say – was instrumental in abolishing the jury trial system in India.

As far as the Navy “Social Mores” are concerned – it seems okay for officers to “sow their wild oats” outside the service environment.

Even in cases of “stealing the affection of a brother officer’s wife” – as long as the love affair is kept discreet – everyone looks the other way.

The Navy cracks the whip only when one of the aggrieved spouses complains – and the complainant is mostly the “cuckolded husband” – the officer whose wife’s affections are being “stolen” by another officer.

The saddest part is that – the wife of the “straying” unfaithful husband – she is hit by a “double whammy”.

First – she has to bear the social humiliation associated with her husband being accused of committing adultery with another woman – and being punished for “conduct unbecoming of an officer”.

Second – she has to suffer financial consequences of her husband losing his job – and maybe – his pension benefits – if he is dismissed with disgrace.

The financial jolt due to loss of job and income of the breadwinner can be particularly severe if the wife is a homemaker financially dependent on her husband.

The children suffer unimaginable agony too.

Earlier there were no Lady Officers in the Armed Forces.

So – the only sexual “offence” involved male officers “stealing the affection of a brother officer’s wife”.

With the entry of Women Officers in the Defence Services in the 1990’s – new possibilities have emerged.

Whereas for male officers – stealing the affection of a brother officer’s wife is deemed to be “conduct unbecoming of an officer” and conduct “prejudicial to good order and discipline” and is considered an offence – in the case of female officers – will the same apply to “stealing the affection of a sister officer’s husband” or “stealing the affections of a married officer”…?

By the way – for a lady officer – stealing the affection of an unmarried “brother officer” is considered okay.

Conversely – stealing the affections of an unmarried “sister officer” seems okay for unmarried male officers.

In fact – “brother officers” are permitted to marry “sister officers”.

Yes – male officers are allowed to marry female officers – and there are many “military couples in uniform” in the Armed Forces.

(Love Affairs between “brother officers” and “sister officers” are considered okay – provided both are unmarried. 

Of course – in the military  extramarital affairs are not considered okay – even though they may be consensual in nature). 

Now – after the recent SC  “Section 377 Verdict”  which decriminalized part of the 158-year-old colonial era provisions of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code (IPC) – one wonders whether Navy will treat “consensual sex” between “Same-Sex” Navy Personnel as acceptable and lawful – or – will it be treated as a case of  “Stealing Affections”  – or –  “Fraternization”  (in case there is a substantial seniority difference between the two same-sex persons indulging in consensual sex)…?

Will “stealing the affection” of a “Brother Officer” (Consensual Buggery) become lawful…?

(Earlier – prior to the decriminalisation of Section 377 – buggery or sodomy was considered unlawful).

Will the Navy return to those bygone seafaring days of the “Rum Bum Lash” Navy…?

It is all very confusing.

Maybe some legal eagle“sea lawyer” can elighten us on the finer aspects of law.

Till then – for me – this “stealing affection” business is all very confusing.

So – all I will say is that – the act of “stealing affection” is an “affair of the heart” – and – “It Takes Two to Tango…”

VIKRAM KARVE

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  1. This story is a fictional spoof, satire, pure fiction, just for fun and humor, no offence is meant to anyone, so take it with a pinch of salt and have a laugh.
  2. All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. Events, Places, Settings and Incidents narrated in the stories are a figment of my imagination. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

Copyright Notice:

No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.

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NB: This Post Was Originally Written on July 19, 2014 and revised later. Link to my original post in my blog Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2014/07/humor-in-uniform-stealing-affections-it.html

Updated Repost: http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2018/03/it-takes-two-to-tango-stealing.html

Revised Repost of my article “Stealing Affections – It Takes Two to Tango” posted online around 4 years ago on 19 July 2014 at url:

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2014/07/humor-in-uniform-stealing-affections-it.html  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2016/08/stealing-affections-it-takes-two-to.html  and https://karve.wordpress.com/2016/08/04/it-takes-two-to-tango-so-why-blame-the-man-alone-for-stealing-the-affection-of-a-brother-officers-wife/  and http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2017/07/it-takes-two-to-tango.html and https://karve.wordpress.com/2017/07/26/love-affairs-it-takes-two-to-tango/ and http://karvediat.blogspot.com/2018/03/it-takes-two-to-tango-stealing.html etc

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