DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION – The Key to a Lasting Marriage

May 30, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION.

Click the link above and read the post in my journal

Also posted below for your convenience:

DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION

Link to my original post in my journal:

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/05/divorce-is-not-option.html


MUSINGS ON MY 31st WEDDING ANNIVERSARY
By
VIKRAM KARVE

We, my wife and I, got married on 30 May 1982.
Today, on 30 May 2013, we complete 31 years of married life, and enter the 32nd year of our marriage.
Ours was an arranged marriage. There was no “love” involved.
We are certainly no “made for each other” couple.
In fact, we were, and still are, a terribly incompatible couple.
The wife of a friend of mine who knew me closely and observed my “would-be-wife” when we had gone to invite them for our wedding commented to her husband that our marriage will not last for even 10 days. My friend landed up on our 10th wedding anniversary on 30 May 1992 with a bottle of champagne and made his wife eat her words.
But what the lady had said did have a ring of truth in it.
My wife and I are indeed an incongruous couple, we are poles apart in all aspects.
We have huge differences of opinion on almost all matters, we fight a lot, we criticize each other, we shout at each other, we never hide our feelings especially when we don’t like something and we call a spade a spade.
We don’t indulge in lovey-dovey Public Displays of Affection (PDA) and we don’t indulge in “niceties” like giving each other gifts or celebrating occasions like birthdays and anniversaries.
Ours may be a rather volatile and “loveless” relationship but there is nothing fake about our relationship.
In these modern times when even passionate “love marriages” breakup and end in divorce, why is it that our rather prosaic marriage has stood the test of time?
There is just one reason.
Both my wife and I were always clear about one thing:
“ DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION 
Posted by Vikram Karve 

IMMIGRATION LIMITS – How Much is Good – The Flock Theory of Migration

May 28, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: IMMIGRATION and THE FLOCK THEORY OF MIGRATION.

IMMIGRATION CAN BE DANGEROUS
WHAT IS THE SAFE LIMIT FOR IMMIGRATION
THE FLOCK THEORY OF MIGRATION
By
VIKRAM KARVE

Link to my original post in my journal:

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/05/immigration-and-flock-theory-of.html


IMMIGRATION and THE FLOCK THEORY OF MIGRATION
Musings
By

VIKRAM KARVE

From my Blog Archives:

Is Migration good? 

Or is it bad? 

What are the consequences of migration for the host country? 

When the number of immigrants becomes large, then in a democracy, the immigrants can influence the outcome of elections by becoming a “vote bank”. 


Immigration can be legal and illegal.

I have observed that for many bright youngsters in India, their cardinal objective in life is to migrate to America, get a Green Card, followed by US Citizenship and permanently live there all their lives and realize their American Dream. 

People from less developed countries migrate to better developed countries, legally and illegally. 

A few years ago I had written an article on The Flock Theory of Migration
I am posting this article below for you to read.
FLOCK THEORY OF MIGRATION
Food for Thought
By
VIKRAM KARVE
Long back, me and my friend, a Bird-Watcher, a self-styled ornithologist, were observing birds
(I am referring to the “winged” variety of birds)
We saw a huge a flock of migratory birds flying in the sky.
It was a fascinating sight to see the flock of birds flying in perfect formation.
I mentioned this to my friend who then told me about the “flock theory” of migration.
He told me that sometimes different kinds of birds that do not belong to the original flock also join the flock and fly along.
The birds in the flock allow these “outsider” birds to fly along with the flock as long as they do not disturb the pattern, movement, flight speed and direction (course) of the flock.
When the number of “immigrant” birds is small, these “outsider” birds quietly assimilate themselves into the flock, obey the rules of the flock and do not disturb the harmony of the flock.
Sometimes the number of these “immigrant” birds increases to a sizeable proportion and they may disturb the harmony of the flock, if these “outsider” birds try to assert themselves.
These “foreigner” birds may even try to control the flock by trying to dominate and alter the flight pattern.
This disturbance in harmony and attempt at domination is not tolerated by the main flock of birds, and violent clashes break out as the main flock of birds tries to remove the “immigrant” birds from the flock and throw them out.
I think a similar hypothesis applies to human migration too.
When you migrate to another country (or when you relocate within your country to another state or city) you must remember this flock theory of migration.
Try to assimilate yourself into your new “host” country or city and acclimatize yourself to the way of life of your new place of residence.
You must mix around and interact with the local inhabitants and imbibe the indigenous culture of your new abode.
You must not “ghettoize” yourself by forming tightly-knit inward-looking groups of your own community but you must embrace the culture of your new land (after all, it is you who have chosen to migrate there).
Always remember that you are the foreigner in their land – you are the “guest” and they are your “hosts” – and a guest must never attempt to dominate the host and try to make the host a guest in his own country.
A large number of my relatives, classmates and friends have migrated to America and have lived there for many years.
However, I find that they mostly mingle among the Indian community (even language and state wise), as is evident from the photos they show us.
When I ask them why they do not have any American friends, they have no credible answer except saying that they do have such friendships, but at the workplace only.
However their children, born and brought up in the USA, have friendships, relationships and even marriages with resident Americans – in fact, Americans now comprise so many types and varieties of ethnicity
Since over the years, so many persons from all parts of the world have migrated to the USA for a better life and now America has become the melting pot of diverse cultures.
The flock theory applies to all types of migration.
TYPES OF MIGRATION
Immigrants migrate due to a variety of reasons.
Some immigrants “choose” to migrate and willingly accept the majority culture of their host nation and are seamlessly assimilated and integrated into the existing society of their “hosts”.
Some immigrants are forced to migrate, due to a variety of reasons, including political and socioeconomic imperatives, for education, or for reasons of safety and security arising from instability or warlike conditions in their homeland.
These forced migrants are like “refugees”.
These “forced migrants” are less amenable to assimilating themselves with the majority population.
It is these “forced immigrants” who ghettoize themselves into communities and try to maintain their own distinct identity by refusing the absorb the culture of their new land.
Sometimes the numbers of such “refugee” forced immigrants may increase to a point where the immigrants may alter the demographic balance and try to impose their will on their hosts.
It is then that the “flock theory” will apply and a conflict will start and there will be a struggle for dominance.
When migration takes place, both the “hosts” (natives) and the “guests” (migrants) must remember the Flock Theory and ensure that cultural harmony is maintained and the demographic balance is not upset.
THRESHOLD LIMITS FOR MIGRATION
My “bird-watcher” friend gave a ballpark figure of 30% when I asked him what was the flock theory threshold beyond which the harmony of the flock is disturbed.
Applying the same threshold to human migration, this tells us that the “hosts” must ensure that “guests” (immigrants) do not exceed 30% of the population.
If this is allowed to happen and the 30% barrier is broken, and the number of immigrants keeps on increasing in an unabated manner two things may happen:
1. The migrants will become a sizeable proportion of the population and alter the demographic balance (and become a “votebank”). In a democracy, this may give the migrants undue power in governance and this loss of power to “outsiders” will be resented by the original inhabitants.
2. The “cultural visibility” of the migrants will become starkly evident and the original local residents will feel threatened and become insecure in their own land. Owing to their dominance, the migrants may try to impose their own ways and try to change the original culture of the land and this cultural invasion will be resented by the original inhabitants.

The “flock theory” phenomenon is akin to the manner in which the harmony of the “flock” is disturbed and the original birds feel jeopardized and fear that their “flock” will be being taken over by “outsider” birds.
The flock theory of migration teaches us the lesson that if migration is not controlled within acceptable limits, due to clash of cultures and a sense of insecurity, a stage will come when the migrants will not be welcome anymore and this will create dissonance and discord in society.
This is because no one likes to be dominated by “outsiders” who try to impose their culture on the local inhabitants.
Remember: No “host” likes to be turned into a “guest” in his own house
Dear Reader:
Do you agree with the “flock theory of migration”?
Please comment and let us know your views.
VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved. 
NB:
All stories in this blog are a work of fiction. The characters do not exist and are purely imaginary. Any resemblance to persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.
No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013. All Rights Reserved
 
Did you like reading this article?
I am sure you will like all the 27 stories in my book  COCKTAIL an anthology of Short Fiction.
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:


http://www.flipkart.com/cocktail-vikram-karve-short-stories-book-8191091844?affid=nme


http://www.indiaplaza.in/cocktail-vikram-karve/books/9788191091847.htm


http://www.apkpublishers.com/books/short-stories/cocktail-by-vikram-karve.html

COCKTAIL ebook
If you prefer reading ebooks on Kindle or your ebook reader, please order Cocktail E-book by clicking the links below:
AMAZON


SMASHWORDS

http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/87925

Foodie Book:  Appetite for a Stroll
If your are a Foodie you will like my book of Food Adventures APPETITE FOR A STROLL. Do order a copy from FLIPKART:

http://www.flipkart.com/appetite-stroll-vikram-karve/8190690094-gw23f9mr2o


About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse – his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: 
http://karvediat.blogspot.com

Professional Profile Vikram Karve: 
http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve

Vikram Karve Facebook Page:  
https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve

Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: 
http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm

Email: vikramwamankarve@gmail.com
Twitter: @vikramkarve
      

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Posted by Vikram Karve 

REPUTATION MANAGEMENT MADE SIMPLE Part 3 : SILENCE IS NOT GOLDEN IN PUBLIC RELATIONS – Navy Sex Scam and Scandal Reputation Risk Media Shy Navy PR

May 17, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: REPUTATION MANAGEMENT MADE SIMPLE Part 3 : SEX SCANDALS REPUTATION RISK and the MEDIA SHY NAVY – SILENCE IS NOT GOLDEN IN PUBLIC RELATIONS.

Click the link above to read my original post in my journal.

 

The Best GULAB JAMUN in Mumbai and How to Eat it

May 14, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: HOW TO EAT GULAB JAMUN.

HOW TO EAT GULAB JAMUN

Mouthwatering Mumbai Memories

Link to my original post in my journal:

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/05/how-to-eat-gulab-jamun.html


HOW TO EAT GULAB JAMUN
By
VIKRAM KARVE
 
I spent six of the best years of my life, from 2000 to 2006, in Mumbai.
I lived in a wonderful building called Empress Court opposite the Oval near Churchgate.
Every evening I went on long walks, mostly on Marine Drive to Chowpatty and back, and sometimes towards Colaba.
The highlight of my Colaba Causeway walk was a visit to Kailash Parbat for their succulent Gulab Jamuns.
I wrote this mouthwatering post in 2004  immediately after I returned after relishing Gulab Jamun at Kailas Parbat in Colaba in Mumbai, while the taste of the delicious delicacy still lingered on my tongue.
Even now I can visualize those delicious soft succulent juicy tempting hot Gulab Jamuns and my mouth waters in anticipation.
Sadly, I am in Pune, and hence I will have to relish those sumptuous Gulab Jamuns in my imagination.
So, Dear Reader, let me recall one of my first lip smacking blog posts, a mouthwatering Mumbai memory, written more than nine years ago on HOW TO EAT A GULAB JAMUN
The art of eating comprises three cardinal steps :

1. First you come to know about good food.
You hear from someone, you read about it somewhere, or come across it while browsing the net or from TV or the media or even from a menu card.

2. Next you go there and observe people eating and relishing the delectable cuisine you have heard so much about see the way they are eating and enjoying themselves. 
You watch the heavenly expression of divine pleasure on their faces.
This tempts you to taste and savor the cuisine yourself.


3. Then you actually order the food you have been yearning for, delicately put a piece in your mouth, and experience the pleasures of eating the delicacy, firsthand.


One evening I suddenly feel an urge, a craving, a desperate sort of yearning, for my favourite sweet GULAB JAMUN.

I believe that if you want to be happy you must fulfill such feasible and viable desires at once, here and now, so I put on my walking shoes, cross the Oval the Rajabai Tower Clock is striking Six turn right at the Mumbai University gate, and then left, and walk towards Kalaghoda, turn right towards Colaba Causeway which is a foodies delight and soon reach my destination – Kailas Parbat at the southern end of Colaba Causeway.

I have heard from my friends that Kailas Parbat is the best place in Mumbai for Gulab Jamuns. 
I have enjoyed delectable Gulab Jamuns at many places at Pachkuin Road in Delhi, on the way from CP to Karol Bagh, at the inimitable Pehelwan Doodhwala at the end of Lanka in Banaras (Varanasi), and even in a place called Dumka, in the back of the beyond, somewhere in what is now Jharkhand.
Now, among the people eating Gulab Jamun at Kailas Parbat, I see a veteran, a connoisseur, relishing delicious piping hot soft succulent juicy Gulab Jamuns with such satisfaction, that I go to the counter and order a Gulab Jamun myself.

I look endearingly at the hot mouth-watering Gulab Jamun dunked in a liberal amount of thick syrup.
It is nice and hot.
Gulab Jamuns must be eaten hot.
The Gulab Jamuns are very soft and juicy.
I spoon a small luscious piece and place it delicately on my tongue.
I close my eyes to enhance the quality of the gustatory experience.
Whenever you want to enjoy good food just close your eyes, concentrate on your tongue and notice the feeling.

I just leave that succulent Gulab Jamun piece on my tongue for a while to let the hot sweet viscous syrup permeate deep into my taste-buds.
Then I gently roll my tongue and the Gulab Jamun disintegrates.
The delicious Gulab Jamun dissolves and melts in my mouth releasing its delicious cardamom tinged flavor and soothing rose fragrance within me.
I eat slowly, deliberately, eyes closed, savoring every moment, relishing the divine taste, prolonging the heavenly experience its epicurean delight of the highest order.

As I walk back home in state of supreme bliss, the lingering taste of the delicious Gulab Jamun remains within me for a long long time.

Even now as I write this, I can almost sense the delicious taste and enchanting fragrance of the heavenly Gulab Jamun. 
And my mouth begins to water!

But alas, I am in Pune right now and I am yearning and craving for a hot syrupy juicy succulent heavenly sweet Gulab Jamun. 
Dear Reader – Do tell us about your favorite Gulab Jamun – where you get it and how you eat it

Happy Eating



VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved. 
NB:
No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013. All Rights Reserved


Did you like reading this story?
I am sure you will like all the 27 stories in my book  COCKTAIL an anthology of Short Fiction.
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:


http://www.flipkart.com/cocktail-vikram-karve-short-stories-book-8191091844?affid=nme


http://www.indiaplaza.in/cocktail-vikram-karve/books/9788191091847.htm


http://www.apkpublishers.com/books/short-stories/cocktail-by-vikram-karve.html

COCKTAIL ebook
If you prefer reading ebooks on Kindle or your ebook reader, please order Cocktail E-book by clicking the links below:
AMAZON


SMASHWORDS

http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/87925

Foodie Book:  Appetite for a Stroll
If your are a Foodie you will like my book of Food Adventures APPETITE FOR A STROLL. Do order a copy from FLIPKART:

http://www.flipkart.com/appetite-stroll-vikram-karve/8190690094-gw23f9mr2o


About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse – his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: 
http://karvediat.blogspot.com

Professional Profile Vikram Karve: 
http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve

Vikram Karve Facebook Page:  
https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve

Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: 
http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm

Email: vikramwamankarve@gmail.com
Twitter: @vikramkarve
      

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Posted by Vikram Karve

LADAKH STAND OFF – ARE WE HEADING FOR ANOTHER HIMALAYAN BLUNDER

April 25, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: ARE WE HEADING FOR ANOTHER HIMALAYAN BLUNDER.

Click the link above or read below

ARE WE HEADING FOR ANOTHER HIMALAYAN BLUNDER
Is it Time to Study the 1962 India China War and Avoid the Same Mistakes 
By
VIKRAM KARVE
 
Recent events in Ladakh give one a sense of déjà vu. 
 
Are we heading for another Himalayan Blunder? 
 
I have heard a saying: THOSE WHO DO NOT LEARN FROM HISTORY ARE CONDEMNED TO REPEAT IT. 
 
I think it may be a good idea for the powers-that-be (Political, Diplomatic, Civil and Military) to Recap the 1962 India China War and Avoid the Same Mistakes.
 
On this topic of the 1962 Sino India Conflict there are many books and a lot of literature available on the internet and in reference journals (like USI Journal) and libraries.
 
Here are a few books on the 1962 India China War which are worth reading:
 
1. The Untold Story By BM Kaul
2. Himalayan Blunder by JP Dalvi
3. The Unfought War of 1962 By JR Saigal
4. The Fall of Towang By Niranjan Prasad
5. War in the High Himalaya by DK Palit
6. Recollections of The Se La Bomdila Debacle 1962 by Jaidev Singh Datta
7. India’s China War by Neville Maxwell
 
Maybe, reading these books will make us aware of our mistakes of the past so that we don’t repeat them. 
 
We cannot to afford to ignore the lessons of history.
 
If we do so it will be to our own peril.
 
That is why we must read such books and take cognizance of the message they try to convey.  
 
In such matters, a studied response may be prudent if are to ensure that history does not repeat itself and we do not head for another Himalayan Blunder. 
Posted by 

OFFICER LIKE QUALITIES aka OLQ and HUMOUR IN UNIFORM

April 24, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: HUMOUR IN UNIFORM – ARMY SENSE OF HUMOR.

Click the link above to read my original article in my journal

The Article is also posted below for your convenience to read:

HUMOR IN UNIFORM
A Hilarious Army Recruitment Advertisement

IF YOU WANT TO HAVE BEAUTIFUL AND SUCCESSFUL DAUGHTERS JOIN INDIAN ARMY

Link to my Original Article in my Journal:

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/04/humour-in-uniform-army-sense-of-humor.html


HUMOR IN UNIFORM
ARMY SENSE OF HUMOUR
A Laugh on Monday Morning 
By
VIKRAM KARVE
Disclaimer: Please read this only if you have a sense of humour. This is a spoof. So first convince yourself that you have a sense of humour and only then read the yarn and have a laugh.
I thought the Navy was witty, but I must say that the army has a great sense of humour.
I have seen many recruitment advertisements with catchy slogans aimed at attracting the right kind of youth to a career in the Defence Services (Army Navy and Air Force).
When we were students the most popular army recruitment advertisement had a rather prosaic yet effective slogan which appealed to your patriotic sentiment:
JOIN THE ARMY AND SERVE THE NATION
This simple slogan made it very clear what type of officers and soldiers the army was looking for.
The army wanted to attract youth inspired with a sense of patriotism – young men who wanted to dedicate their lives in the service of the nation.
In those “good old days” an army officer was required to put service before self and live up to the Chetwode Motto:
“The safety, honour and welfare of your Country come first, always and every time.
The honour, welfare and comfort of the men you command come next.
Your own ease, comfort and safety come last always and every time”
And so the army recruitment slogan was in sync with this paramount OLQ requirement.
( OLQ is the acronym for “Officer Like Qualities” )
The Navy had its own slogans too.
Those days a popular navy recruitment advertisement had the slogan:
JOIN THE NAVY AND SEE THE WORLD
(Now you know why I preferred the navy to the army, though in hindsight I realize that I have hardly seen much of the world especially in comparison to my merchant mariner son who has travelled round the globe sailing across all oceans and seas and seeing all continents)
Recruitment advertisements were designed depending on what type of person the army wanted to attract to recruit as an officer or a soldier.
The recruitment slogan encapsulates in a nutshell the cardinal OLQ (“Officer Like Quality”) desired at that point of time.
Thus, the slogan “Join the Army and Serve the Nation” clearly implied that patriotism was the most important OLQ.
OLQ (or what are considered “Officer Like Qualities”) keep changing as the army ethos and value system tries to keep in tune with the changing social culture and situational ethics.
Accordingly, as the concept of OLQ changed from time to time, in order to attract the matching type of youth to join the army, the army came up with a variety of recruitment slogans emphasizing on and appealing to different human sentiments – adventure, bravery, masculinity, honesty, sacrifice, social status, quality of life, sports and recreation facilities, salary and perks, financial security, material benefits etc
Yes, with the progress of time, change in ethos and value system is inevitable and the meaning of OLQ too will accordingly change to keep in sync with social mores.
Like I said, I thought the navy was witty, but I was stunned when I came across this bizarre army recruitment slogan:
IF YOU WANT TO HAVE BEAUTIFUL AND SUCCESSFUL DAUGHTERS JOIN INDIAN ARMY
I chanced upon this gem of wit on twitter. It was a photograph of a hoarding apparently carrying an army recruitment advertisement. The advertisement had pictures of Bollywood Actors and Celebrities, who are daughters of army officers, with a caption that reads: “If you want to have beautiful and successful daughters, join Indian Army”
Some persons had clicked snapshots and photos of the hoarding featuring this colourful army recruitment advertisement and uploaded the pictures on social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter and soon this picture had gone viral on twitter.
In due course, this was picked up by the mainstream media and duly reported in newspapers and TV news channels.
There are many reasons to join the Army, but this one takes the cake: “Join the Army if you want to have beautiful and successful daughters?” – what a fascinating and incredible reason!
I wonder what type of officer material the army is trying to attract and what is the new meaning of the term OLQ?
Well, I have not seen this advertisement myself, so I will not post it here. You may have seen it (and read about it) in the mainstream media or on the social media or on the internet.
If you haven’t, here is are some links to reports and picture of the advertisement in the mainstream media (click the links below which will open in a new window):
(And hey, after seeing the pictures and reading the news-reports, please remember to come back here and continue reading my blog)
DNA Newspaper : Thursday, Apr 18, 2013
India Today Online
As I write this I cannot stop laughing.
“If you want to have beautiful and successful daughters, join Indian Army”
I have not seen a more hilarious army recruitment slogan than this one.
Have you?
VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved. 
NB:
No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013. All Rights Reserved


Did you like reading this blog post?
I am sure you will like all the 27 stories in my book  COCKTAIL an anthology of Short Fiction.
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:


http://www.flipkart.com/cocktail-vikram-karve-short-stories-book-8191091844?affid=nme


http://www.indiaplaza.in/cocktail-vikram-karve/books/9788191091847.htm


http://www.apkpublishers.com/books/short-stories/cocktail-by-vikram-karve.html

COCKTAIL ebook
If you prefer reading ebooks on Kindle or your ebook reader, please order Cocktail E-book by clicking the links below:
AMAZON


SMASHWORDS

http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/87925

Foodie Book:  Appetite for a Stroll
If your are a Foodie you will like my book of Food Adventures APPETITE FOR A STROLL. Do order a copy from FLIPKART:

http://www.flipkart.com/appetite-stroll-vikram-karve/8190690094-gw23f9mr2o


About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse – his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: 
http://karvediat.blogspot.com

Professional Profile Vikram Karve: 
http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve

Vikram Karve Facebook Page:  
https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve

Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: 
http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm

Email: vikramwamankarve@gmail.com
Twitter: @vikramkarve
      

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Posted by Vikram Karve 

Maharshi Karve – Autobiography : LOOKING BACK by DK KARVE : The Autobiography of Maharshi Dhondo Keshav Karve : Book Review

April 18, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: LOOKING BACK by DK KARVE : The Autobiography of Maharshi Dhondo Keshav Karve : Book Review.

Click the link above to read my original post in my journal

Review also posted below for your convenience

 

LOOKING BACK By DK KARVE (1936)

The Autobiography of Bharat Ratna Dhondo Keshav Karve
 
(Book Review by Vikram Karve)
 
Tomorrow 18 April 2013 is the 155th Birth Anniversary of Bharat Ratna Maharshi Dhondo Keshav Karve (18.04.1858 – 09.11.1962).
 
I felt that, on this occasion, it would be apt to tell you about his life and work as written by him in his autobiography titled LOOKING BACK published in 1936.
 
Dear Reader, you must be wondering why I am reviewing an autobiography written in 1936.

Well, sometime back, for six years of my life, I stayed in a magnificent building called Empress Court on Maharshi Karve Road at Churchgate in Mumbai.

I share the same surname ( Karve ) as the author.

Also, I happen to be the great grandson of Maharshi Dhondo Keshav Karve. 

 
But, beyond that, compared to him I am a nobody – not even a pygmy.
 
Maharshi Karve clearly knew his goal, persisted ceaselessly throughout his life with missionary zeal and transformed the destiny of the Indian Woman.

The first university for women in India, SNDT University, and educational institutions for women under the aegis of the Hingne Stree Shiksan Samstha Poona, later renamed Maharshi Karve Stree Shikshan Samstha (MKSSS) Pune, covering the entire spectrum ranging from pre-primary schools to post-graduate, engineering, vocational and professional colleges bear eloquent testimony to his indomitable spirit, untiring perseverance and determined efforts.

 
In his preface, Frederick J Gould, renowned rationalist and lecturer on Ethics, writes that “the narrative is a parable of his career” – a most apt description of the autobiography. The author tells his life-story in a simple straightforward manner, with remarkable candour and humility; resulting in a narrative which is friendly, interesting and readable.
 
Autobiographies are sometimes voluminous tomes, but this a small book, 200 pages, and a very easy comfortable enjoyable read that makes it almost unputdownable.

Dr. Dhondo Keshav Karve writes a crisp, flowing narrative of his life, interspersed with his views and anecdotes, in simple, straightforward style which facilitates the reader to visualize through the author’s eyes the places, period, people and events pertaining to his life and times and the trials and tribulations he faced and struggled to conquer.

 
Dr. Dhondo Keshav Karve was born on 18th of April 1858. In the first few chapters he writes about Murud, his native place in Konkan, Maharashtra, his ancestry and his early life– the description is so vivid that you can clearly “see” through the author’s eye.
 
His struggle to appear in the public service examination (walking 110 miles in torrential rain and difficult terrain to Satara) and his shattering disappointment at not being allowed to appear for the examination (because “he looked too young”) make poignant reading.
 
“Many undreamt of things have happened in my life and given a different turn to my career” he writes, and then goes on to describe his high school and, later, college education at The Wilson College Bombay (Mumbai) narrating various incidents that convinced him of the role of destiny and serendipity in shaping his life and career as a teacher and then Professor of Mathematics.
 
He married at the age of fourteen but began his marital life at the age of twenty! 
 
This was the custom of those days. 
 
Let’s read the author’s own words on his domestic life:
 
 “… I was married at the age of fourteen and my wife was then eight. Her family lived very near to ours and we knew each other very well and had often played together. However after marriage we had to forget our old relation as playmates and to behave as strangers, often looking toward each other but never standing together to exchange words … We had to communicate with each other through my sister … My marital life began under the parental roof at Murud when I was twenty …” 
 
Their domestic bliss was short lived as his wife died after a few years leaving behind a son.
 
“Thus ended the first part of my domestic life”… he concludes in crisp witty style.
 
An incident highlighting the plight of a widow left an indelible impression on him and germinated in him the idea of widow remarriage.

He married Godubai, who was widowed when she was only eight years old, was a sister of his friend Mr. Joshi, and now twenty three was studying at Pandita Ramabai’s Sharada Sadan as its first widow student.

 
Let’s read in the author’s own words how he asked for her hand in marriage to her father – “I told him…..I had made up my mind to marry a widow. He sat silent for a minute and then hinted that there was no need to go in search of such a bride”.
 
He describes in detail the ostracism he faced from some orthodox quarters and systematically enunciates his life work – his organization of the Widow Marriage Association, Hindu Widows Home, Mahila Vidyalaya, Nishkama Karma Math, and other institutions, culminating in the birth of the first Indian Women’s University (SNDT University).
 
The trials and tribulations he faced in his life-work of emancipation of education of women (widows in particular) and how he overcame them by his persistent steadfast endeavours and indomitable spirit makes illuminating reading and underlines the fact that Dr. DK Karve was no arm-chair social reformer but a person devoted to achieve his dreams on the ground in reality.
 
These chapters form the meat of the book and make compelling reading. 
 
His dedication and meticulousness is evident in the appendices where he has given date-wise details of his engagements and subscriptions down to the paisa for his educational institutions from various places he visited around the world to propagate their cause.
 
He then describes his world tour, at the ripe age of 71, to meet eminent educationists to propagate the cause of the Women’s University, his later domestic life and ends with a few of his views and ideas for posterity. 
 
At the end of the book, concluding his autobiography, he writes:
 
“Here ends the story of my life. I hope this simple story will serve some useful purpose”.
 
Maharshi Dhondo Keshav Karve wrote this book in 1936. 
 
He lived on till the 9th of November 1962, achieving so much more on the way, and was conferred the honorary degree of Doctor of Letters ( D.Litt.) by the famous and prestigious Banaras Hindu University (BHU) in 1942, followed by University of Poona [Pune] in 1951, SNDT Women’s University in 1955, and the LL.D. by Bombay [Mumbai] University in 1957.
 
Maharshi Dhondo Keshav Karve received the Padma Vibhushan in 1955 and the India’s highest honour the “Bharat Ratna” in 1958, a fitting tribute on his centenary at the glorious age of 100.
 
It is an engrossing and illuminating autobiography, written in simple witty readable storytelling style, and it clearly brings out the mammoth contribution of Maharshi Karve and the trials and tribulations he faced.
 
 
Epilogue
 
I was born in 1956, and have fleeting memories of Maharshi Karve, during our visits to Hingne Stree Sikshan Samstha as a small boy.

My mother tells me that I featured in a Films Division Documentary on him during his centenary celebrations in 1958.

 
Here is a photo of me with my great grandfather Maharshi Karve taken in 1958
 
 
Vikram Karve with Maharshi Karve

It is from some old timers and other people and mainly from books that I learn of his pioneering work in transforming the destiny of the Indian Woman and I thought I should share this.
 
I have written this book review with the hope that some of us, particularly the students and alumni of SNDT University, Cummins College of Engineering for Women, SOFT, Karve Institute of Social Sciences and other educational institutions who owe their very genesis and existence to Maharshi Karve, are motivated to read about his stellar pioneering work and draw inspiration from his autobiography.
 
VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved. 
 
NB:
No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013. All Rights Reserved

Did you like reading this book review?
I am sure you will like all the 27 stories in my book  COCKTAIL an anthology of Short Fiction.
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:


http://www.flipkart.com/cocktail-vikram-karve-short-stories-book-8191091844?affid=nme


http://www.indiaplaza.in/cocktail-vikram-karve/books/9788191091847.htm


http://www.apkpublishers.com/books/short-stories/cocktail-by-vikram-karve.html

COCKTAIL ebook
If you prefer reading ebooks on Kindle or your ebook reader, please order Cocktail E-book by clicking the links below:
AMAZON


SMASHWORDS

http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/87925

 
Foodie Book:  Appetite for a Stroll
If your are a Foodie you will like my book of Food Adventures APPETITE FOR A STROLL. Do order a copy from FLIPKART:

http://www.flipkart.com/appetite-stroll-vikram-karve/8190690094-gw23f9mr2o

About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse – his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: 
http://karvediat.blogspot.com

Professional Profile Vikram Karve: 
http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve

Vikram Karve Facebook Page:  
https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve

Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: 
http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm

Email: vikramwamankarve@gmail.com

Twitter: @vikramkarve
      

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.

ARMY OFFICER or BEAUTY QUEEN – IS IT PROPER FOR WOMEN ARMY OFFICERS TO TAKE PART IN BEAUTY PAGEANTS

April 11, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: SHOULD ARMY OFFICERS TAKE PART IN BEAUTY CONTESTS.

Click the link above to read my original article in my journal.

The article is also posted below for you to read and for your convenience:

 

IS IS PROPER FOR LADY ARMY OFFICERS TO PARTICIPATE IN BEAUTY CONTESTS

Link to my Original Article in my Journal: 

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/04/should-army-officers-take-part-in.html


SHOULD ARMY OFFICERS TAKE PART IN BEAUTY CONTESTS
Musings of a Veteran
By
VIKRAM KARVE
Is it proper for an Army Officer to be crowned a Beauty Queen?
Should Army Officers take part in Beauty Pageants?
These are the thoughts perambulating in my brain ever since I saw a poster inviting Lady Army Officers to take part in the May Queen Beauty Contest being held at the local institute.
Let me tell you that I am not against beauty contests. In fact, when I was in the navy, I used to eagerly look forward to the Navy Queen Contest held annually during the Navy Ball. This beauty pageant was a most prestigious event, next only the Miss IndiaContest, and was a launching pad for aspirants who wanted to enter the dazzling world of glamour, fashion and showbiz. This celebrated Beauty Pageant was open to all but I do not recall a Naval Officer participating in the Navy Queen Contest.
You may argue that whatever an officer does in off-duty hours is her personal affair and it is none of the army’s business to interfere in an officer’s personal life.
This may be true in civilian life but it is not so in the army.
In civilian workplaces there may be no personal relationship between a boss and his subordinates outside the office.
In the army, an officer is on duty at all times 24/7.
The army is not a mere “9 to 6 five-day-week” job like in the civilian world.
The army is not a job. The army is a way of life.
In the army the unique command relationship between officers and soldiers is omnipresent and omniscient.
In an army unit, an officer is being observed round-the-clock by the men under her command. (It is the same in the navy, on a ship).
The officer must be “seen” to be proper at all times since any indiscretions will be immediately noticed by the troops.
In such a situation, an army officer does not have a personal life.
The army has traditionally been a male bastion. Even today, after the induction of women officers, all the soldiers are men. The fact that the majority of soldiers are drawn from predominantly rural stock creates a unique situation for the female officer.
That is why an officer has to be very careful of her conduct and decorum at all times lest she send a wrong message which can be misinterpreted by her troops resulting in loss of respect and degradation of moral authority.
Owing to the conservative culture in the army, especially the orthodox mindset the soldiers, extreme care needs to be exercised by a lady army officer in order to ensure that her body language is not open to misinterpretation. Deliberate, or even unintentional, flaunting of your physical assets which can be perceived as trying to attract the attention of the opposite gender may lead to undesirable consequences.
In the army, perceptions do matter, and it is very important for a female officer to maintain a proper “soldierly” image in front of her troops.
Soldiers must not visualize their women officers as “eye candy”.
Probably, this is the reason why women officers are advised to de-glamorize themselves, especially in the presence of their troops.
When women were inducted in the navy in the 1990’s, I recall that some guidelines were issued to newly joined female officers that in case they wished to use cosmetics they must avoid looking “flashy” and their facial make-up must be worn conservatively and without being conspicuous.  Titivation like the use of false eyelashes, heavy eyeliner, brightly coloured eye shadow, coloured nail polish and excessive facial make-up was to be avoided and, if at all they wanted to use lipstick, then only transparent lipstick was to be used.
In matters of dress also, sobriety was advised. Lady officers were advised to take care that their dress was not provocative. Specifically, dresses revealing the navel and cleavage were not to be worn. Flimsy transparent clothes were not to be worn, especially in social functions. Extreme care was to be exercised by lady officers to ensure that their body language is not open to misinterpretation. Deliberately flaunting your physical beauty and dressing in a way designed to attract undue attention of the opposite gender was to be avoided.

A beauty pageant, or beauty contest, is a competition that mainly focuses on the physical beauty of its contestants.
Winners of beauty contests are often called beauty queens.
A Beauty Contest is a “pageant” – a spectacle, a show, a beauty parade.
Army Officers are trained to display their soldierly deportment in military parades as a part of their profession.
Then, is it right for Army Officers to flaunt their glamour and make a spectacle of themselves in “beauty parades”?
Is it proper for Female Officers to parade on the stage flaunting their bodies in skimpy clothes showing off their enticing sensuality and physical assets in a beauty contest in front of an audience which may include the soldiers under their command?
Tell me, if you are an officer, which of the two things below will enhance your reputation and stature amongst your troops:
1. Impressing your troops by displaying military bearing on the parade ground
or
2. Titillating the men under your command by titivating and flaunting your ravishing sex appeal on the stage
As mentioned earlier, soldiers are mainly recruited from the rural areas where traditional old-fashioned social mores may still be patriarchal and feudal in nature.
Owing to their background, soldiers are likely to have a conservative and orthodox mindset.
These simple soldiers may get flummoxed by the culture shock of seeing their “madam sahib” as a tantalizing beauty sashaying on the stage making an exhibition of her attractiveness in front of everyone like a glamorous showgirl.
An army unit is an intimate closed society, like a ship.
That is why you cannot hide anything and nothing remains secret in an army unit (or ship).
In the army, officers are in close contact with their troops.
Soldiers are present everywhere.
Even in non-working hours, soldiers are omnipresent everywhere performing various sundry duties in officers messes and institutes and employed as batmen (sahayaks) in an officer’s personal living quarters.
Thus, a number of soldiers are bound to be present during the beauty pageant and they will be most eagerly watching the fascinating spectacle of gorgeous women parading on the stage.
The “hot” news that their “glamorous” officer paraded herself in a beauty pageant will immediately buzz throughout the unit (with salt, pepper and spices added) and electrify the grapevine.
This may have undesirable consequences, especially for the discipline of the unit, as the next morning the troops may greet the officer with unseen sniggers, derisive sneers and snide jeers behind her back.
The soldiers will start looking at the “beauty queen” officer as an object and the officer will surely lose respect in the eyes of her troops.
An officer must not let herself be degraded to the status of an object.
An officer must always maintain high moral ground as perceived by her troops.
Moral ascendancy begets willing obedience and is the key ingredient in the recipe for effective command of men.
Once you lose moral authority you cannot exercise genuine command over your troops.
That is why at all times you must conduct yourself in a befitting manner and engage in appropriate activities so that you inspire confidence in your troops of your capabilities and leadership abilities.
In India there is no compulsory conscription and you join the army out of your own free choice.
But you must remember that the army is not like any other job – the army is a unique way of life which entails certain restrictions and demands its own high standard of conduct and stringent obligations.
In the civilian world, for example, if you say “woman entrepreneur” the emphasis is on “woman”.
But in the army if you say “woman officer” the emphasis is on “officer”.
In the army the gender of the individual does not make a difference.
If you are an aspirant for a career in the dazzling and glamorous world of showbiz and fashion, then a beauty pageant is certainly a good stepping stone to catapult you into a career as a fashion model, movie star or media celebrity.
In contrast, if you are a young woman who wants to join the army, you must realize that the army is a profession of arms. The army officer has a war-fighting job which entails leading soldiers in combat. Yes, the army is a profession of arms and not a profession in the glamour world. That is why once you join the army you must be prepared for restrictions, regimentation and compliance with a strict code of conduct and officer-like behaviour.
If you are woman army officer who is thinking of participating in a beauty pageant you must introspect as to whether winning a beauty contest will enhance your image as an army officer in the minds of the soldiers under your command.
Ask yourself: Does taking part in beauty pageants enhance your “Officer like Qualities” or OLQ in the eyes your troops?
There used to be a maxim: “an officer and a gentleman”.
Now, with the advent of women officers the equivalent axiom is: “an officer and a lady”.
If you are a woman army officer thinking of taking part in a beauty pageant, you must ask yourself:
What would you like to be:
“an officer and a lady”
or
“an officer and a beauty queen”?
The army is a war-fighting organisation.
An officer has to lead her troops in combat.
Will soldiers like to be led into battle by a gorgeous “glamour doll”?
Or will they like their commander to be a tough no-nonsense professional woman officer?
You tell me.
Dear Reader:
Do you agree?
You don’t?
Do comment and tell us why.


VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved. 
NB:
No part of this Blog may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical including photocopying or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Blog Author Vikram Karve who holds the copyright.
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013. All Rights Reserved


Did you like reading this blog post?
I am sure you will like all the 27 stories in my book  COCKTAIL an anthology of Short Fiction.
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:


http://www.flipkart.com/cocktail-vikram-karve-short-stories-book-8191091844?affid=nme


http://www.indiaplaza.in/cocktail-vikram-karve/books/9788191091847.htm


http://www.apkpublishers.com/books/short-stories/cocktail-by-vikram-karve.html

COCKTAIL ebook
If you prefer reading ebooks on Kindle or your ebook reader, please order Cocktail E-book by clicking the links below:
AMAZON


SMASHWORDS

http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/87925

Foodie Book:  Appetite for a Stroll
If your are a Foodie you will like my book of Food Adventures APPETITE FOR A STROLL. Do order a copy from FLIPKART:

http://www.flipkart.com/appetite-stroll-vikram-karve/8190690094-gw23f9mr2o


About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse – his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: 
http://karvediat.blogspot.com

Professional Profile Vikram Karve: 
http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve

Vikram Karve Facebook Page:  
https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve

Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: 
http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm

Email: vikramwamankarve@gmail.com
Twitter: @vikramkarve
      

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Posted by Vikram Karve 

 

EMPOWERED OR ENTRAPPED ?

April 8, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: EMPOWERMENT EQUALS ENTRAPMENT.

Click the link above and read the article in my journal

SHOULD PAY BE KEPT SECRET – IS SALARY CONFIDENTIALITY GOOD ETHICS ?

April 4, 2013

Academic and Creative Writing Journal Vikram Karve: PAY SECRECY – Is it Ethical – SHOULD SALARY BE KEPT CONFIDENTIAL.

Click the link above to read the article in my journal

The article is also posted below for your convenience

SHOULD PAY BE KEPT SECRET

Link to my original article in my journal :

http://karvediat.blogspot.in/2013/04/pay-secrecy-is-it-ethical-should-salary.html


PAY SECRECY – Is it Ethical?
SHOULD SALARY BE KEPT CONFIDENTIAL
Musings on Business Ethics
By
VIKRAM KARVE
A few days ago, at a social gathering, I met a young man who works as an investment banker.
I had heard that investment banking is a lucrative profession.
In my usual loud voice I asked him how much salary he got.
He looked at me aghast as if I had committed sacrilege.
Everyone around us looked at me in disbelief as if I had committed a great faux pas.
To whet my curiosity, I repeated the “indiscretion” by asking whoever I met his or her salary.
I was surprised to see that today’s youngsters are very secretive and unwilling to disclose how much they earn.
I observed this secretive nature, and reluctance to disclose salaries and compensation packages, across professions – ranging from nerdy IT “Techies” to Street Smart MBAs of all hues.
I just do not understand this “cloak-and-dagger” obsession with pay secrecy.
In the 1970’s, after getting our B. Tech degrees in Engineering, all of us in our class took up a variety of jobs, in the government and in the industry, in public and private sectors, in MNCs and PSUs.
Whenever we met we discussed our new jobs – and we freely discussed our pay, our salaries and what perks we got in our respective jobs. There was nothing to hide.
In those glorious “pre-liberalization” days of “socialism” it was considered ethical to be equitable and that is why salaries were comparable whether you worked in the private sector or public sector.
Yes, though the private sector paid more, there was no excessively disproportionate disparity in pay for the same type of work and level of posts between one place and another.
How things have radically changed with the advent of liberalisation and globalisation!
Today the concept of “equal pay for equal work” seems to have been forgotten and we see an obscene imbalance in compensation packages.
Those days, in the 1970’s, Salary Structures were simple – you got a basic pay, dearness allowance, some well-defined perks and, in some cases, publicly declared incentives and bonuses.
Everything was transparent and, to the best of my knowledge, such Machiavellian concepts like “Cost To Company” (CTC), ESOPs, and other “secret” allowances and “hush-hush” incentives and bonuses did not exist.
I feel that “pay secrecy” is a concept which is alien to conventional Indian ethos.
It looks like this “secretive” Human Resource Management Philosophy (comprising elements like “confidential salaries”) has become prevalent in India after 1991, post-liberalization, with the entry of foreign companies who have brought along with them their own distinct organizational cultures.
Can somebody please tell me what is the need for you to keep your pay secret or for your employer to keep confidential the salaries of employees?
Even today, as far as government jobs are concerned, pay, salaries and allowances are public knowledge. There is total transparency in pay scales, increments, and all payments made to employees in government and public sector jobs. I think that there is pay transparency in some large industries and traditional Indian organizations of the “old mould” as well.
Then why have this obsession with pay secrecy in some firms, especially in companies with foreign organizational cultures like MNCs and IT Companies?
It is said that an Ethical Human Resource (HR) Management System must have three attributes:
1. It must be FAIR
2. It must be JUST
3. It must be TRANSPARENT
The concept of pay secrecy violates all these three tenets.
Let me give you an example.
I have a friend whose son migrated abroad to the USA many years ago for his studies and continued to live and work in America.
He was “posted” to India by his company (an MNC).
Though the boy is of Indian origin, since he is based in America, he is considered to be an Expatriate (expat).
I was told that because he is an “expat” he gets a much higher salary and attractive compensation package for doing the same job as compared to his Indian counterparts.
In fact, he also joked that had he remained in India like his brother, or come back toIndia after his studies abroad, and joined the same firm, he would have been paid much less for doing the same job.
(Whereas in India, foreign expats are paid more than Indians, the reverse may be true in America for Indian “expats” who probably are paid much less than their local counterparts)
Is this fair?
A fair system will ensure equitable compensation and will provide equal pay for equal work.
What is the justification for paying different salaries to employees of the same company for doing the same work?
Is this discrimination based on nationality just and moral?
In such a scenario you may have a ridiculous situation where a junior gets more salary than his senior just because they belong to different countries.
Is this absurdity not akin to racial discrimination?
I feel that openness is always better than secrecy, particularly in HR Management Systems which must be Transparent.
It has been my personal experience that a Transparent and Honest HR Policy nurtures a sense of Trust and Loyalty in employees.
Secrecy breeds distrust and creates an negative atmosphere of intrigue and suspicion in the workplace.
Such unhealthy and undesirable vibes create a sense of insecurity and disloyalty which in turn cause a feeling of stress in employees.
If there is workplace stress, people may not enjoy working in such an insalubrious environment and this is not conducive to friendly and open interpersonal relationships as well.
I feel that Pay Systems must be ethical and non-discriminatory.
A candid, sincere, fair and transparent HR Management System will inspire a sense of justice and harmony by ensuring equitable, fair and transparent compensation mechanisms for all employees.
Do you agree? What are your views on pay secrecy? Should salary be kept confidential? What are the pros and cons? Why has pay secrecy become the norm in most organizations?
Please comment. I eagerly look forward to your views.
VIKRAM KARVE
Copyright © Vikram Karve 2013
Vikram Karve has asserted his right under the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988 to be identified as the author of this work. 
© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Did you like this article?

I am sure you will like the 27 short stories from my recently published anthology of Short Fiction COCKTAIL
To order your COCKTAIL please click any of the links below:

http://www.flipkart.com/cocktail-vikram-karve-short-stories-book-8191091844?affid=nme


http://www.indiaplaza.in/cocktail-vikram-karve/books/9788191091847.htm


http://www.apkpublishers.com/books/short-stories/cocktail-by-vikram-karve.html

COCKTAIL ebook
If you prefer reading ebooks on Kindle or your ebook reader, please order Cocktail E-book by clicking the links below:
AMAZON


SMASHWORDS

http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/87925


Foodie Book:  Appetite for a Stroll
If your are a Foodie I am sure that you will like my book of Food Adventures APPETITE FOR A STROLL. Do order a copy from FLIPKART:

http://www.flipkart.com/appetite-stroll-vikram-karve/8190690094-gw23f9mr2o


About Vikram Karve

A creative person with a zest for life, Vikram Karve is a retired Naval Officer turned full time writer and blogger. Educated at IIT Delhi, IIT (BHU) Varanasi, The Lawrence School Lovedale and Bishops School Pune, Vikram has published two books: COCKTAIL a collection of fiction short stories about relationships (2011) and APPETITE FOR A STROLL a book of Foodie Adventures (2008) and is currently working on his novel and a book of vignettes and an anthology of short fiction. An avid blogger, he has written a number of fiction short stories and creative non-fiction articles on a variety of topics including food, travel, philosophy, academics, technology, management, health, pet parenting, teaching stories and self help in magazines and published a large number of professional  and academic research papers in journals and edited in-house journals and magazines for many years, before the advent of blogging. Vikram has taught at a University as a Professor for 15 years and now teaches as a visiting faculty and devotes most of his time to creative writing and blogging. Vikram Karve lives in Pune India with his family and muse – his pet dog Sherry with whom he takes long walks thinking creative thoughts.

Vikram Karve Academic and Creative Writing Journal: 
http://karvediat.blogspot.com

Professional Profile Vikram Karve: 
http://www.linkedin.com/in/karve

Vikram Karve Facebook Page:  
https://www.facebook.com/vikramkarve

Vikram Karve Creative Writing Blog: 
http://vikramkarve.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm

Email: vikramkarve@hotmail.com

      

© vikram karve., all rights reserved.
Posted by Vikram Karve
Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 652 other followers

%d bloggers like this: